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Narcissistic conservative parent Facebook is wild
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At least at the end he says he loves them all and wants there to be an end to division.
Too many families (and societies currently) completely break apart out of ego and stubbornness.
Grandpa is having a big old moan (semi-publicly unfortunately) about differences in values. But he is concluding with love and longing for togetherness, which is exactly what is needed to transcend the beef and intolerance.
I was expecting to dogpile this but actually I see the redemption in it.
If this person is truly narcissistic as the title states, then the call for unity at the end is simply a method of playing the victim. And I’m inclined to believe the title, since his child has gone no-contact. Because going no-contact is often the only way for children of narcissists to begin improving their own mental health after growing up with a narcissist for a parent.
If there’s one thing narcissists love, it’s turning things around on their victims. They always want to control the narrative to be the victim. Given that context, the call for unity rings hollow. Because it could easily just be a way for the grandfather to flip the script and paint their child in a bad light. It allows them to go “hey I’ve been trying to reconcile and they have refused.” But what the people reading this post wouldn’t know (especially if they’ve only seen the grandfather’s side) is that the child has been refusing because every time they have tried in the past they have been burned.
DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. Narcissists are unbearable.
Yeah it feels a lot like missing missing reasons it isn’t, but it hits that same part of my brain screaming yikes
I don't see the redemption. This person was obviously a horrible father always and caused his children to suffer his behavior. Whatever happened with Trump was just the icing on top of the cake and only gave a place for these behaviors to be projected.
I'm getting the impression that they "re-bonded" after retiring because their ex cut them out, and the divorce was a result of their ego and stubbornness.
And he had NOTHING going on after retiring.
That is being too generous in your assumption. Family courts go above and beyond to try to maintain relationships between parents and children. If this guy wasn't a part of his children's lives it's either because he chose not to be or because he was so abusive that a judge decided that it was in the child's best interest to keep him away. Short of kidnapping one spouse can't unilaterally cut the other out of the children's lives after a divorce.