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For the second comment, if the bow is there to please men and infantilize women, why don't you just buy a pair that doesn't have the bow? I'm all for calling out sexism and over sexualization, but i think this is just a case of capitalism being capitalism. Panties with bows probably just sell better to a significant demographic of women.
Your only mistake is taking that ragebait comment seriously in the first place. Bows have nothing to do with children. They are used all over the place as a decorative element.
How come it's just rage bait when women say shit like that but when it's a guy suddenly it's 'all men are bastards!'?
I dunno', I've heard much wilder takes said in complete earnest.
There are some genuinely jaded and dumb people in the world who will say all sorts of shit and mean it.
Some of those people appear to be in this thread right now lmao
Eloise would probably respond that internalized sexism makes women want the bow as well, because society makes women want what men want...or something like that
I mean, social standards having a sexist bias and hence people inside that society earnestly express the standards they were raised in is a thing.
It's not that society makes women want what men want, it's that society sets standards that everyone works towards, and it's also set different ones for men and women.
There's no harm to a cute bow on underwear, nor to recognizing that fashion trends currently find that less acceptable on mens clothing.
The people who tie different gender standards and norms back to the sexual are just making it weird for no good reason.
"A man will only want me if my panties have a bow"
Girl, that man should want you well before he has seen your panties.
Lmaooooooooo
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I get what they're saying and that it's moreso a symptom meant to reveal a bigger perceived issue rather than to be taken hyperbolic, but this comment made me lose my shit lolEloise needs to work on her own internalized misogyny if she thinks women's consumption and clothing choices are all predicated on what men find attractive.
....why...do you not think she doesn't buy different panties? It's the first woman's photo, and they're not even necessarily hers either. I seriously need to understand your thought process here.
My thought process is that she is insinuating something from those bows that doesnt seem based in reality. Its far more likely that the panties have a bow because its cute and aesthetically pleasing than it is big panty pushing an infantizing agenda.