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Heya Everyone, new Mega time and for it, I'm gonna advertise a TTRPG system called Thirsty Sword Lesbians.

A sword duel can end in kissing, a witch can gain her power by helping others find love, and an entire campaign can be built around wandering matchmakers flying from system to system.

Thirsty Sword Lesbians is a roleplaying game for telling queer stories with friends. If you love angsty disaster lesbians with swords, you have come to the right place.

In this book, you’ll find:

Flirting, sword-fighting, and zingers in a system designed for both narrative drama and player safety.

An innovative take on the Powered by the Apocalypse family of games.

Nine character types, each focusing on a particular emotional conflict: Beast, Chosen, Devoted, Infamous, Nature Witch, Scoundrel, Seeker, Spooky Witch, and Trickster.

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Tools to create your own settings and stories, alongside a dozen pre-written options including the cyberpunk Neon City 2099, steamfunk poets battling oppression as Les Violettes Dangereuses, laser swords and intrigue in the Starcross Galaxy, and more.

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Here's a link to their website, I did copy everything over directly from it because I put off writing the Mega this week. I was drawing a blank on what I wanted to talk about. catgirl-huh

https://evilhat.com/product/thirsty-sword-lesbians/

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[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Why the fuck has noone ever told me how much of a gamechanger hair gel is for curly hair?
I’ve been struggling with keeping my hair under control for more than 15 years. But even though I’ve made quite some progress, I still was never able to prevent them from turning into a frizzy mess sooner than later, which has always made me pretty dysphoric.

But now, a big source of dysphoria gone, just like that. All thanks to a bit of sticky goo. horror

I feel so pretty now. screm-pretty

I... I should buy some hair gel. In my defense I did get some good curly hair products. Now I just need to do my hair consistently...

People asking me what I've been up to but gender is still like 95% of my brain capacity. Uh I think I played a video game yesterday?

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 15 points 2 days ago (3 children)

transphobia, libsGod I love when I vent my frustrations about my transphobic mother and someone immediately both sideses me with a "it's so shitty that she's refusing to hear your side of things but at the end of the day the difference between sex and gender is a new theory and the decision on whether or not to use your name and pronouns is hers to make"

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 10 points 2 days ago

Same people would call you "uncivil" for going no contact.

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

spoilerSays quite a lot that they think not hearing you out is the shitty part and not, you know... treating your own daughter like crap for how she was born.

Fuck them! meow-tableflip

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 10 points 2 days ago

spoilerThat's exactly what I said. I told them I didn't give a single ounce of a crap if my mom understood the difference between sex and gender but that if your kid comes to you and asks you to use the language you've already learned how to use for roughly half of the human population for them and you refuse just to die on some weird moral high ground that doesn't exist, that makes you a bad person.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago

spoiler"your side of things" is (often) used so evilly, I fucking hate that phrase. Its a way to downplay anything into an opinion, a sports team you like. These people have no concern for facts. Its just vibes.

meow-hug I'm sorry about your mother/the libs in your life.

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 12 points 2 days ago (4 children)

naruto would be better if naruto was a woman and sasuke was a woman and. shikamaru was a woman and neji was a woman

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago

naruto would be better if masashi kishimoto didn't hate women

Believe it or not sometimes Naruto transforms himself into a sexy woman

Female Itachi crush

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago

I post on social media saying I'm hot af and people demand a photo, I say no since I got nothing to prove to them gigachad

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Turns out the blinding pain of change wasn't worse than the quiet torture of inertia.

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I feel this deep in my core. How did you escape the inertia?

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I was in many ways lucky that had a radical external change when my partner had an great job opportunity far away from my old job, family and comfortable numbness.

That space allowed the cracks I'd ignored to widen, I could reinvent myself and basically now I'm keeping up pressure to move forwards and avoid back sliding.

There are some other contradictions that I won't go into due to doxxing but basically to resolve them I have to keep taking baby steps out of my comfort zone.

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 9 points 2 days ago

incredibly dumb shitpost, genital piercing mentiontook a wrong turn in Albuquerque and winded up on Prince Albert Island instead of Prince Edward Island, and boy, is my dick tired

bugs-stalin

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 22 points 2 days ago (4 children)

had a conversation the other day that's still weirding me out a little. i was walking back from the shop when this random woman called out to me, "why have you got the side of your head shaved?" i responded, "because i like it that way." and she was like, "well i don't like it."

i'm sorry for not asking you?? next time i change up my hair i'll be sure to consult some random woman on a bench

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

One time a (very visibly drunk) lady came around my house while I was mowing the lawn and asked me what race I was. I said Metis with some other stuff too lol but mostly Metis.

She got mad, curled her fists, and said "ahh why couldnt you have said Italian!???"

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago

The bench woman epidemic has been getting out of hand

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

I'm scary looking enough that people keep those comments to themselves, keep rocking the look it looks cool big-cool

[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

had a conversation the other day that's still weirding me out a little. i was walking back from the shop when this loud braggart tried to put me down and said his school is great. i told him, "what's the matter buddy, ain't you heard of my school? it's number one in the state." and he was like, "well i don't like that you're true to your school."

i'm sorry for not asking you?? next time i wear my letterman i'll be sure to consult some random man on a bench

[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 17 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I love being a transmasc lesbian πŸ₯°

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago

Love that for you ❀️

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[–] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Its been about a month since I got my haircut, and now that its grown a little I've realised that rn my hair is exactly what I wanted when I was a little kid. Only took like 20 years but I got it, eventually. Nowadays I like it longer, but it's still nice to be at this length from time to time, and I love my current style regardless. It's cute and a little boyish but in a femme way and I love it.

[–] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I also just love the experience of putting on one of my go-to outfits for the first time post-haircut. It feels like all of them have a new vibe now despite being the exact same. A nice hit of euphoria each time.

[–] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 2 days ago

God and with my hair up it's so cute too! Having bangs really really suits me, I missed them so much

If I get reincarnated or whatever
I wanna be a horsefly
Bite people for their blood
Never give in until I die

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

under communism omegaverse where the man is the alpha and the woman is the omega will be made illegal

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Just ban all straight omegaverse

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

ban all straight

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Have you considered Apha woman and omega man

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 9 points 2 days ago

i think grey hair is cool because you can dye it really easily actually

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Love wearing cute nails, but I definitely underestimated how much harder anything that involves using myfingers would be doggirl-sweat Like opening a soda can or doing the buttons on my blouse is kind of tricky now, hope it gets better with practice

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 18 points 3 days ago (8 children)
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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Was watching a tiktok where this one lady was explaining how bad hetro dating has been getting among the zoomers. Perverts/dehumanizing behavior etc I think it might have to do with all the sexism. Shit seems grim for straight women fr I do not envy them one bit

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago (5 children)

They're breaking out choking in casual sex. It's crazy, not even asking just jump to choking.

When I've been out, I inevitably spot a couple of young people on what seems to be a first date - shes dressed up fancy, makeup, looks nice. He shows up in a trucker hat and pyjamas 😩

[–] Horse@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 2 days ago

They’re breaking out choking in casual sex. It’s crazy, not even asking just jump to choking.

sex stuffthat's fucking terrifying
as someone who is into being choked i make people do a couple of dry runs to make sure they know how to do it properly before i let their hand anywhere near my throat during sex
people who just spring it on people need to be beaten severely

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Can someone tell me if this is something or help me understand this

dysphoriaI feel like feeling dysphoric and unsafe in other ways is correlated somehow. I'm not sure which comes first or if its different sometimes. But like, earlier I was feeling scared/unsafe about my family potentially finding out about my being trans and then I felt my bottom dysphoria a lot more then I was before. And a lot of the time I'm feeling dysphoric, I also worry about like how I will be perceived or the general transphobia of society. I don't know, maybe I'm not making sense I'm just trying to understand this a bit- earlier it really felt like one lead to the other and idk maybe its a more generalized problem. Maybe its just gender feelings leading to other gender feelings I have.

Also things are a bit foggy right now so sorry if this is a weird post

dysphoria

And a lot of the time I'm feeling dysphoric, I also worry about like how I will be perceived or the general transphobia of society

i do this too, i feel like it comes with the territory of anxiety in general

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

spoilerI think this is pretty common. Negative feelings about one thing tend to amplify negative feelings about other stuff

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (4 children)

spoiler100% correlation between these things.

It's very hard to tell what actually makes you dysphoric when you feel unsafe.

You're feeling fear caused by a family who is hostile towards your existence. Your dysphoria might be a release valve. You want to make the pain stop now, so you think, "if only I had bottom surgery, I wouldn't feel this way. I could feel better instantly."

If you were living in a safe and accepting environment, you might find that actually your genitals don't really matter to you much in terms of your transition.

Btw I only say this because it's how I react to stress and dysphoria. Earlier on in my transition when I was still closeted, I was really focused on having breasts/a vagina. After I came out and have been living openly among friends and family, I realized that I didn't really care about those things much. They were just things I wanted because I thought they could ease the pain immediately.

I needed the space to explore, and so do you. I honestly think you need to start considering finding a safe place away from your family as a necessary and foundational part of your transition. Like, if you're scared now, imagine how scary it's going to be hiding HRT. They'll find out eventually. You can't hide it forever.

And if you're worried for your safety, then I believe you that it's an unsafe situation. I just hope you can be safe.

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[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago (7 children)

Hey, just wanted to put this out there in case it comes up for anyone, but I'm sort of taking a break from most stuff on matrix, and probably greatly decreasing my activity here as well. I've kind of realizing I was letting it become a detriment to my mental health, which is not why I'm on here. The downsides of being overwhelmed in the environments started to outweigh the community for me, so I'm taking a break. I won't be gone forever, and you might see me lurking, or dropping the occasional comment from time to time, but I probably wouldn't expect further interaction from me for a bit. If you need or want to reach me, please feel free to DM me on matrix. It's much easier for me to manage one on one now, which is ironic because I used to be a completely other way, but here we are.

So yeah, that's all I've got to say. Again, I will be back! I just need a bit of a break from some social stuff for a bit. My matrix account is linked to my profile here as well, and I'm still in the rooms, so hopefully it shouldn't prove too much of an issue if you want/need to reach me. With that, I'll wish you all a wonderful day cat-trans

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