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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/OtherwisePea5543 on 2023-07-05 09:41:10+00:00.

So basically, my (20F) father is not mine biologically, which he didn't know until I was six. Apparently he knew my mom was a cheater, but didn't realize I was the result of that until she admitted it and he took a test when I was six. Last conversation we had was him explaining all this to me, and that I wouldn't see him anymore. The worst part is my brother (18M) is his, and they have a great relationship.

I admit I was hurt at the time, but I did get therapy and it helped me correct my emotions. At the end of the day, my father was more a victim than me, and he had every right to step away from a child that he didn't create. I settled on taking it out on my mother who was the real person to blame, and tried to maintain a relationship with my brother, which was hard since he moved in with my dad full time when I was 12.

I'm in an ok spot now, I'm finally NC with my mom and I have my own place, dumpy as it is. Recently my brother reached out (We only see eachother once or twice a year) and said our dad wants to talk. Apparently he regrets disowning me, and wants to try to reconcile, or at least explain why he did what he did.

I'm not interested, I get that he did the right thing, but I feel like cutting off your child, even if it really isn't yours isn't a reversible decision. I told my brother I'm not going to meet him, and we got in a huge fight. He says I owe it to him for the six years of free love he gave me, and that I should be grateful I got that. It ended with him saying they were a package deal, and I need to accept both of them or lose both of them. Now I feel like a selfish ass, and maybe I made the wrong call.