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Sickkk, thanks for showing me this.

It’s genuinely unacceptable that we force people to live in these ways. Having to present more masc or stop yourself from smiling at strangers. Not to mention the ways that men suffer (albeit a fraction of what women face) under the patriarchy as well. It’s in all of our best interests to change the way we think about gender. I’m sorry that you have to go through that :/

Oh, sick. Thats my bad. These topics get some people, including me, a little on edge. You’re literally a woman, so you know the topic better than I do lol.

“Had to teach” is crazy. If she’s a woman it is literally impossible for her not to be aware of her social position and what that means for interacting with men. All you’ve “taught” her is to internalize the idea that the actions of those men are her fault. I’m not saying this to shame you, it’s just that society has got us all fucked up on how we think about gender dynamics. It’s our responsibility to self-reflect on these things because we ALL do it. Not just you.

Someone reposted it as a comment if that helps. I also stole it from the TikTok cringe subreddit if you’d like to look for it there.

Oh, thank you. Can I embed videos directly into posts?

Genuinely thank you for explaining. I felt like I was going crazy for a minute there.

Aww, thanks! That’s really encouraging. It’s kind of an obligation considering the state of things. I’m glad it’s appreciated by others.

Why do you already have a downvote? Is that a common thing on lemmy, or is it just because anti-feminism is a core personality trait for so many men?

It’s actually quite upsetting. Good luck out there girlie.

It’s actually so bad… Also why do you still have 1 vote after my upvote? Are there salty men in here?

Assuming I’m not talking to the void, if you feel attacked by a critique of men in general then you remain a part of the problem. ALL men have to engage in self critique because ALL men (and people in general) have been socialized to think of women in harmful ways. It’s not a moral failing, but it is your responsibility to learn. Anything less is laziness.

I’m assuming you’re a man? No shade, I am too. It’s something that is hard for us to notice until you look for it (or watch a clip compilation). Women experience it every day for their whole lives, so they sense these things naturally. The sad thing is, it’s less that they have to “look for it” like us and more that every social interaction with men is marked by these gross dynamics.

In essence, this video is composed of (not-so) extreme examples of a very mundane social phenomenon.

I’d love to try graphene. Unfortunately, I bought an iPhone this year, so now I feel obligated to use it until it breaks. Thanks for being the guinea pig for me to start with a better experience when my time comes o7