WomensStuff

Hey all! We had a couple of glitches moving over but we're sorted now. If you couldn't see anything before please try !womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone again

Thanks for bearing with us!

Hey all!

As you can see we've moved house to !womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone If your account isnt on piefed youll see old posts in the old comm, and new in the new. If youre on piefed you can see old in the new. You can get help at !piefed_help@piefed.social you can access it no matter what instance you're from. On jerboa I can't see much atm but interstellar shows it all 🤷‍♀️

In short, we'd had enough of members being upset by the Manosphere jumping in and being nasty. Advantages of blahaj are...

1. There's no downvoting, so people can't be harassed by downvote.
2. There's really heavy moderating, blahaj pre-emptively bans known trolls and has zero tolerance on discrimination.
3. Ada is fantastically supportive and really cares about creating a safe space.
4. With piefed we can transfer the comm.

Apologies for not putting it to a vote or giving you the heads up. I didn't want to give the Manosphere a chance to cause issues before we went, or try to scupper the move altogether.

There are a couple of posts that vanished in the move and there's likely to be teething problems. But I'm feeling good about there being less stress long term. Just want to say a huge heartfelt thanks to Ada for all her hard work during the move! Ada you've been amazing 👏 🤩 ❤️

Any questions? Ask in the new community!

WE AREIN THEPROCESS OF MOVING TO !womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone PLEASE SUB THERE

I'm in my 40s and really relate to this. Perimenopause is imminent, cost of living is awful, etc etc. What's your age brackets difficulties?

WE ARE IN THE PROCESS OF MOVING TO !womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone PLEASE SUB THERE

Helped your child learn a new manual skill? Set up something at work? Sorted a new make up technique? Whatever it is we wanna know!

This is a women-only discussion community. If you do not identify as a women or fall under the umbrella cited in the community sidebar, then please refrain from posting or replying.

We're fighting a losing battle. This is a space where we are very clearly not wanted, and we cannot discuss women's issues without hostility.

Keep it limited to makeup and fashion, I guess, unless you want to be brigaded!

I'm over it. Let the boys have their playground. Lemmy is not a space that is welcoming to women, and, because of that, unless sweeping changes are made, I just don't see myself ever recommending it to any women as a good place to make a community.

I'm not going to contribute to its growth or content any longer. "PROGRESSIVE" space. Garbage. Absolute fucking hypocrisy. I'm so sick of having to explain myself and be made to feel like I need to justify my existence here.

Good luck, sisters. I'm desperate for community, but this feels more like a battleground than it does a home.

We appreciate the sideline supporters who respect the community rules & expectations and are respectful enough to not interject. You are very much loved and respected, brothers. 🫶

EDIT: This community & its moderators have been nothing but kind & respectful to men who post here, and are constantly shit on & downvoted because of it.

I have resorted to being hostile! And I see very little difference in how this is being received compared to them.

My blood pressure too high rn.

EDIT 2: Mods.. I'm sorry for leaving you to find this dumpster fire of a thread! I gotta go to bed and I'm sick of trying to explain things to people who don't actually care or want to understand.

Women: attempt to foster & curate their own community to talk about women-centric issues and experiences without being drowned out by majority voices

The rest of Lemmy:

We all have a brand we can't live without! What's yours?

So if this isn’t the right community for this I get it, and feel free to remove it (but please do let me know why, so I don’t make the same mistake in the future, the rules don’t really say what sort of content, and this feels pretty femme-centric)

Partially I need to vent and don’t have a great social network at the moment, and partially I’m looking for ways to handle.. not the situations (those I can mostly handle as ex-military, former wrestler, badass chick 💪), but the guilty uncomfortable awkward feelings. Those are new since I stopped trying so hard to mask and started experiencing myself more.

I bartend once a week at a bar and grill as the only employee of my shift (I also cook and it’s too much tbh), and I guess that used to be a lot easier, or maybe the places I was working were just… less likely to attract the sort of people this one does.. it’s sort of an older-crowd townie bar (I’m complimented on being highly competent, and I feel like I’m drowning), with a local heavy drinking culture. It doesn’t cost a lot to sit and drink all night, so a lot of people do. ($1-1.50 for mugs, or 1.75-2.25 for pints/bottles of cheap swill - on Wisconsin..?)

I usually try to dress super frumpy, baggy sweatshirt and stuff, because I’m ace/aro, not very social, and somewhere on the autism spectrum, and getting hit on at work is nothing but wildly uncomfortable.

I’ve made the mistake before of looking somewhat nice (no makeup or jewelry, just something that fits better than a baggy hoodie), and it doesn’t net me more tips, it just leads to uncomfortable propositions. Drunk dudes, am I right?

Young guy tonight (based on his first console, probs like mid 20s) was super nice, totally nerdy and probably wasn’t expecting a chat about video games with a collector at a dive bar, but I’m just not interested in hanging out for playing right now because I’m moving in two months, otherwise I’d risk the awkwardness even though I can tell it would have been at best a weird friendship. I felt really bad for that rejection when he verbally swallowed his feelings and asked anyway (would.. never mind.. well maybe you’d like to). Because just bad timing. Even my boss knows I’m leaving at the end of July, and have a lot of work to do. He rushed out after but it legit wasn’t personal. Poor kid. (Omg I feel old. He didn’t like Reddit or other social link aggregators and I introduced him to the concept of RSS feeds..)

Coworker didn’t bother trying to be subtle. He’s around a lot and always drunk, and he today said “I know you are asexual and I respect that, but I really want to just ravage you” and so on and so forth with increasing specificity, for a very uncomfortable half an hour of drunken propositional rambling (despite my very clear “no, thank you, you know I’m really not interested in that with you or anyone else. That doesn’t sound fun to me as much as you think it should, so I’m not interested, but thank you for being honest about it so we could be entirely clear, now please stop commenting on what you want to do to me..”) while I tried to clean.. and prior he tried to pick a fight with some other guy I’ve never seen before that one of my regulars also had never met.. and I had to tell him to chill the fuck out.. I’ve never had to flex my powers as the sole voice of the bar before and it suuuucked, but he did indeed shut the fuck up and sit down. So that was kinda fun?

And I’m just.. so tired of fending off this shit. I don’t want any of it. I don’t wear makeup, I stopped trying to cover my gray hair years ago, and I intentionally dress to not impress.. I’m just trying to do my job and also be comfortable with the heat.. I’m not even all that nice to anyone, other than quiet lady folks. Especially those who clearly don’t want to be there and just got dragged along. I try to keep them entertained when I can, and make them question their dynamic. I get being there.

How do I deal with feeling like crap about other people being gross? Or risking their all to be turned down by someone doing a job? I know how to be strong and upfront and honest, to do the work to be clear about my intentions, even if I’m nice about it, but I don’t have a clue how to feel better about it..

So, I'm pretty new to painting nails, and this is the second time I painted them ever.

I painted my nails 5 days ago and applied a top coat. I applied a second layer + top coat 4 days ago, since I managed to scratch the paint quite fast. The second layer only covered up the scratches. Today I realised, that the paint started to get this yellowish tone. Primarily around the areas where I applied a second layer.

Is there something I could have done to prevent this?

Edit: the different colors are all fromthe same brand (the top coat is from a different brand) and they all have this phenomenon).

There's a lot of societal expectations for women, and often we totally understandably end up meeting them cos we feel we have to. They also sometimes just don't happen for us. What's one you're glad you didn't meet?

Women are taught to nurture and develop men. That's great, except sometimes trying puts you at risk, and it's often not reciprocated. Who here has got stuck in the past?

Women are often really hard on ourselves and it's really understandable. Society expects a lot of us, and women are seen badly for seeing themselves well.

Let's think positive! What's your favourite thing about you?

Feeling bored with your wardrobe but don't want to spend money on new clothes? The Wrong Shoe Theory suggests pairing the most unexpected pair of shoes you have with your outfit to change the whole vibe. Examples include wearing flip-flops with tailored pants, combat boots with a summer dress, or bright colored loafers with a muted suit.

Wrong Jacket Theory works the same way, pairing things you wouldn't normally think go together, like a blazer with t-shirt and shorts, or a jean jacket with a nice dress.

Have you guys tried either of these? What combos do you like?

Many anti lgbt people are careful with what they say, and don't say or do anything overtly anti. What are some subtle signs?

Remember no politics!

It's Friday so let's play a game! It's simple, you answer questions without saying yes or no. Either answer a question below or pose your own question.

Our home is our castle, and it's where we spend most our time. You may have just a room, bedsit, or mansion... what styles have you done it in?