this post was submitted on 26 May 2025
72 points (96.2% liked)
A Boring Dystopia
12566 readers
1137 users here now
Pictures, Videos, Articles showing just how boring it is to live in a dystopic society, or with signs of a dystopic society.
Rules (Subject to Change)
--Be a Decent Human Being
--Posting news articles: include the source name and exact title from article in your post title
--If a picture is just a screenshot of an article, link the article
--If a video's content isn't clear from title, write a short summary so people know what it's about.
--Posts must have something to do with the topic
--Zero tolerance for Racism/Sexism/Ableism/etc.
--No NSFW content
--Abide by the rules of lemmy.world
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
I've struggled my entire life with male friends. They all seemed to really appreciate how I would listen to them and their problems. Yet when it came time for me to open up, they would just turn the conversation back to about themselves or just skip past what I was trying to talk about.
I've never been competitive and rarely had the energy to make myself heard. It all felt so shallow and there was no depth to these relationships. It didn't feel worth the effort to put up a with the fight.
I'm very fortunate that a number of women, who have come and gone in my life, were able to listen or guide me in so many important ways. Even with my newest friend, she has been showing me new ways to open up and feel safe.
It makes me a bit sad that I've never really had men in my life who could show me how to open up the same way women have. It would be so much easier to relate since we would have similar experiences growing up as men. With my female friends, I can only relate with them so far. They are women, I am not.
The hurtful things that men have said to me and the hurtful things they have done to me makes it incredibly hard for me to make male friends now. I wish that weren't the situation. I absolutely crave variety, diversity and connection.
As a woman with a few close male friends that I love very much, I wish it was more ok to hug and hold hands with them. I wish that friends, regardless of gender, could be close.
For some reason, in America, we just assume some kind of sexual attraction or relationship when people have any kind of physical contact.
But, man, sometimes I just want to hug my best friend when we're both going through it. Sometimes, I just want to hold hands for the comfort of knowing that we've got each other. There's nothing more to this want. It's as simple as that. But it feels like an impossible dream for society to ever accept this.
So I don't. And it hurts.
I dream of a day when men and women can all open up freely to each other, equally and without stigma. And a day when we can all comfort each other without rumors or questions.
100% on this. I hate that we get robbed of and rob ourselves of affection. Because then of course all touch becomes sexualized. Of course all our emotional needs get poured into any opening they are given. We're touch starved
Yes... I feel this in my soul. 😥 Why is cuddling bad...It doesn't have to mean anything besides genuine friendship