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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by alyaza@beehaw.org to c/support@beehaw.org

hey folks, we'll be quick and to the point with this one:

we have made the decision to defederate from lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works. we recognize this is hugely inconvenient for a wide variety of reasons, but we think this is a decision we need to take immediately. the remainder of the post details our thoughts and decision-making on why this is necessary.

we have been concerned with how sustainable the explosion of new users on Lemmy is--particularly with federation in mind--basically since it began. i have already related how difficult dealing with the explosion has been just constrained to this instance for us four Admins, and increasingly we're being confronted with external vectors we have to deal with that have further stressed our capabilities (elaborated on below).

an unfortunate reality we've also found is we just don't have the tools or the time here to parse out all the good from all the bad. all we have is a nuke and some pretty rudimentary mod powers that don't scale well. we have a list of improvements we'd like to see both on the moderation side of Lemmy and federation if at all possible--but we're unanimous in the belief that we can't wait on what we want to be developed here. separately, we want to do this now, while the band-aid can be ripped off with substantially less pain.

aside from/complementary to what's mentioned above, our reason for defederating, by and large, boils down to:

  • these two instances' open registration policy, which is extremely problematic for us given how federation works and how trivial it makes trolling, harassment, and other undesirable behavior;
  • the disproportionate number of moderator actions we take against users of these two instances, and the general amount of time we have to dedicate to bad actors on those two instances;
  • our need to preserve not only a moderated community but a vibe and general feeling this is actually a safe space for our users to participate in;
  • and the reality that fulfilling our ethos is simply not possible when we not only have to account for our own users but have to account for literally tens of thousands of new, completely unvetted users, some of whom explicitly see spaces like this as desirable to troll and disrupt and others of whom simply don't care about what our instance stands for

as Gaywallet puts it, in our discussion of whether to do this:

There's a lot of soft moderating that happens, where people step in to diffuse tense situations. But it's not just that, there's a vibe that comes along with it. Most people need a lot of trust and support to open up, and it's really hard to trust and support who's around you when there are bad actors. People shut themselves off in various ways when there's more hostility around them. They'll even shut themselves off when there's fake nice behavior around. There's a lot of nuance in modding a community like this and it's not just where we take moderator actions- sometimes people need to step in to diffuse, to negotiate, to help people grow. This only works when everyone is on the same page about our ethos and right now we can't even assess that for people who aren't from our instance, so we're walking a tightrope by trying to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. That isn't sustainable forever and especially not in the face of massive growth on such a short timeframe.

Explicitly safe spaces in real life typically aren't open to having strangers walk in off the street, even if they have a bouncer to throw problematic people out. A single negative interaction might require a lot of energy to undo.

and, to reiterate: we understand that a lot of people legitimately and fairly use these instances, and this is going to be painful while it's in effect. but we hope you can understand why we're doing this. our words, when we talk about building something better here, are not idle platitudes, and we are not out to build a space that grows at any cost. we want a better space, and we think this is necessary to do that right now. if you disagree we understand that, but we hope you can if nothing else come away with the understanding it was an informed decision.

this is also not a permanent judgement (or a moral one on the part of either community's owner, i should add--we just have differing interests here and that's fine). in the future as tools develop, cultures settle, attitudes and interest change, and the wave of newcomers settles down, we'll reassess whether we feel capable of refederating with these communities.

thanks for using our site folks.

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[-] sparky@lemmy.pt 29 points 1 year ago

I think this is very disappointing, and exceptionally selfish, to split up some of the largest Lemmy communities while a mass Reddit exodus is ongoing. We should be sticking together and trying to grow the Fediverse as a whole, rather than trying to wall off any one single community at this point. That said, I hope this is the end of this approach, and that smaller instances, particularly ones that support a particular community won’t be pushed aside as well (hello from Lemmy Portugal).

[-] eric5949@beehaw.org 28 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Well I won't fault you but that seriously hampers my experience using Lemmy so guess I'll go make another account on another instance.

Edit: the more I recreate my account the more annoyed I am by this, you literally have the communities everyone joined and just ripped them away from 90% of Lemmy's user base. Not cool.

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[-] kamin@lemmy.kghorvath.com 28 points 1 year ago

Disappointing to see the largest lemmy instances fracturing so early. But this also confirms my decision to self host my own instance - to avoid this sort of thing.

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[-] anders@rytter.me 27 points 1 year ago

@alyaza I think the "solution" here is worse than the problem.

[-] PelicanPersuader@beehaw.org 27 points 1 year ago

I understand and respect your decision here. Are there any plans to defederate from the porn instances?

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[-] anthoniix@kbin.social 27 points 1 year ago

Firstly, I want to say I appreciate your dedication to creating a well moderated and maintained community.

However, I feel like this is an overall bad decision.

Essentially what I'm thinking is, how is this sustainable?

The amount of control that youre trying to achieve here is going to create an increasingly small and insular community. Also, there is a serious risk of burn out on the moderation end if you're attempting to currate this much, the more this server grows the harder this is going to be to maintain.

With the type of platform that this is, we're going to have a wide variety of people. A lot of them are just going to be bad people. Simply defederating won't fix this, and it will also be a problem here even with manually approved sign ups.

If people want to, they will just lie to get in. Essentially your system right now relies on people not lying to you when they sign up. A targeted harassment campaign could easily overcome that.

What's next? Are we going to deferate kbin.social and mastodon.social? Why don't we just defederate every instance? Even the biggest social media platforms have a seriously hard time moderating content they actually don't want on their platform. You can literally find porn on Youtube.

Tipping your hand on the scales this much is really stressful for a small team, and often doesn't lead to the outcomes that you thought you wanted. I hope in the near future you refederate, but I understand if you don't.

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[-] Recant@beehaw.org 26 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This is really hard to process.

I came to beehaw because it seemed to very welcoming and the fediverse provided freedom which was excellent. It is difficult to process because now users on beehaw are being told "you can be open and welcoming as long as you don't dare integrate your beehaw and lemmy world experience". Hopefully the beehaw staff understand that ultimately, users desire freedom to choose how they want their online experience.

I can only see this hurting beehaw in the future and hopefully this is a short misstep and not a permanent decision. The only reason that beehaw has seen massive growth is because of the association with lemmy world and other popular instances. This fragmentation will only hurt Lemmy when Reddit was seen as a "one stop shop" for all posts.

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[-] interolivary@beehaw.org 26 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Unsurprisingly this has made some people very ANGY. So much of the anger is coming from the sort of people that it validates to me that I'd rather be a part of an "lib SJW hugbox" run by "dictators" than whatever those people see as their ideal community. Why is it that freedom of speech maximalists are never pleasant people?

Of course it's not an ideal solution, but barring better moderation tools it seems like the least bad solution when considering Beehaw's goals, which don't include 100% unfettered free speech or having to federate with every single other Lemmy instance out there.

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[-] 21trillionsats@infosec.pub 26 points 1 year ago

I definitely do find this a little disappointing as I think the Lemmy community is too small at the moment to create unnecessary divides and schisms. Success in my mind is predicated on many communities from Reddit coming to servers and forming a common denominator community that achieves critical mass.

It’s clear to me that some of the communities on the 2 you are defederating from you instance have become more popular and are already the defacto “place to be” for certain subreddits.

All that said, I’m happy that my main server (infosec.pub) has not unfederated from those 2 instances so I am able to still participate on those 2 servers AND interact here on my “main” account. This lets me get the best of both worlds. It’s very exciting to see the Lemmy model working in that regard!

[-] rs5th@lemmy.scottlabs.io 21 points 1 year ago

There are various definitions of “success”. One instance’s definition may well be “replace Reddit”, and another’s might be “create a welcoming community where users feel safe”.

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[-] Helix@beehaw.org 24 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

If anyone has an issue with defederating to reduce stress (and worse) for our volunteer mods, please watch the Documentary "The Cleaners" (2018) about how moderators in Manila for Facebook, YouTube, Twitter & Co. got PTSD (and worse) from moderating content. Or at least this video about the traumatic life of a Facebook moderator by The Verge.

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[-] sim_@beehaw.org 24 points 1 year ago

I resonate with what @gaywallet said about how we shut ourselves off in environments we can’t trust. I think I forgot how “easy” it can be to engage when you expect others to assume positive intent. I’ve wasted so much time writing and rewriting Reddit comments because I was worried it would be taken the wrong way. And then half the time I’d decide to just scrap it because it wasn’t worth the sweat.

This place has been a breath of fresh air in contrast.

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[-] grizzzlay@beehaw.org 23 points 1 year ago

That's kind of surprising, especially since there are communities that exist in those instances that do not exist here. I hope that at least, communities can sprout up here (pro wrestling or Green Bay Packers, anyone?)

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[-] green_witch@beehaw.org 23 points 1 year ago

I understand, and appreciate the move.

My very first post on lemmy.world was raided by trolls from an alt-right instance(?). It was not a good experience, and a big reason why I immediately migrated here to beehaw.

[-] Master@beehaw.org 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This is disappointing considering how popular some of the beehaw communities are (for instance beehaw.org/c/gaming) and now they have been completely ostracized from part of the lemmy community. Or at least the fastest growing part. (mostly because they have open registration). Personally I think this will only hurt the platform as a whole and fragment further, what is by nature, an already fragmented community.

I get why it is being done though. Especially with there being no verification for those servers. They become easy ways to make troll accounts.

Lemmy needs better federated mod tools to say the least (or so it appears to be). There has to be a better way to do this.

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[-] Liempong_pagong@beehaw.org 23 points 1 year ago

I'm in support of temporary defederation, if just to hold out until better tools come around to moderate things coming from outside Beehaw.

I've visited Lemmy.world and there are people there mocking other instances for having a tighter registration policy and not having an open registration. They say we are gatekeeping. But even if we try to explain, I think they wouldn't understand what the reasons are.

Frankly, they are chaotic there. I will be eager to watch the developments in the coming weeks.

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[-] UnitCircle@beehaw.org 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Well I was worried, but I can still access the communities I'm subscribed to from those instances so I can appreciate this more.

My biggest issue with Reddit has been the lack of nuanced discussion. Everything is just black or white. If we can keep that element out of this instance I'll be happy.

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[-] BobQuasit@beehaw.org 22 points 1 year ago

How ironic! I had just subscribed to several communities on those instances this evening. Go figure. I guess I should reproduce my community subscriptions over on kbin. But wait, does this mean I can't even SEE that I subscribed to those communities here?

[-] alyaza@beehaw.org 22 points 1 year ago

But wait, does this mean I can’t even SEE that I subscribed to those communities here?

yeah it sucks. the ideal here for us would be an intermediary step of some kind between total defederation and federation that does something like let Beehaw users go out, but doesn't let lemmy.world users come in, but that's far off if it's even possible

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[-] Limeade@beehaw.org 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I hope we get the ability to block instances on the user level, too, like we can on Mastodon. I tried looking for a way when sh.itjust.works blew up because I had a feeling it was going to attract a lot of impolite trolls just for the fact that they would have profanity in their domain name. It comes across as a bit antisocial to me.

I'm sure some people picked it because they thought it was silly word play rather than offensive, but it's not like there's an easy way to parse out the easily amused people from the ones who are out to push boundaries.

[-] shaggy@beehaw.org 21 points 1 year ago

I'm one of those new members of this community. I have been welcomed in and am thankful for being given the benefit of the doubt. And I can appreciate how much work it must be to maintain a safe space for everyone.

I stopped using reddit, and uninstalled RIF from my devices this last Sunday, and very quickly realized how much time I was putting into doom scrolling and reading discussions that would end up making my blood boil. Shortly after that, I began to feel a sense of freedom, and I realized how much toxicity was on reddit from a new perspective.

On Tuesday I joined lemmy.world. I was intrigued by the concept of federated software, and was hopeful I could find a community of people there. At first, everything was great (I may have been only noticing the good), and I started to look for specific communities that I might have an active interest in. I also saw a post from beehaw, explaining what they're about. I thought, "That's neat", but I didn't pursue it at the time.

On Wednesday morning, I started to notice some of the things @alaza is referring to, and it was disheartening. I tried to ignore them, but once they were noticed, they couldn't be unnoticed. I asked to join beehaw that same afternoon, and was accepted shortly thereafter. I look forward to growing with this community. And am grateful that one with these goals exist.

I'll bet defederating was a tough decision, and one that wasn't taken lightly. Having moved from one network to the next, only to find the same toxicity I was running away from in such a short time, I am thankful that careful decisions like these were made when necessary to preserve the spirit of acceptance and a safe space for everyone. I hope, as this software matures, that we can begin growing more than sheltering, but I can see how both will be necessary at times for our community itself to grow and thrive.

PS: I'll inevitably use the wrong terms (community, instance, federated...). I've got a sliver of a grasp when to use each one. I'll be cheerfully learning more about it going forward.

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[-] Cube6392@beehaw.org 21 points 1 year ago

I support this decision overall. If this space is meant to be a safe and strongly moderated one, it makes a lot of sense. For now I'll be maintaining an alt account on another instance that allows more free for all content and treating this as my safety blanket zone for when it all gets too crazy.

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[-] Username@beehaw.org 21 points 1 year ago

I am a moderator on the lemmy.world sailing community through my Beehaw acct. Will this affect that?

[-] alyaza@beehaw.org 26 points 1 year ago

oh dear, probably yeah. you might have to register over there and get re-appointed

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