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Emotional harm can be hard to name and easy to dismiss. We know when we've been physically hit, but emotional is really different. All sorts of things can cause emotional harm... what can we do to protect ourselves from it?

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I totally get the joke, and Pedro can only be a good thing (huge fan, pray daily that he adopts me). But I do understand why some men would find it insulting. What's your thoughts?

Womens friendships breaking up can be painful, a relief, or just plain messy. What was the thing that ruined one of yours?

It's literally the most natural thing in the world to equate reproductive effectiveness to worth. All life is "worth" their reproductive effectiveness. So not having sex is very relevant to our entire existence as a species.

As such, our mental faculties put a heavy punishment in the form of mental pain, i.e. "self-worth attached to getting laid", on this whole thing.

This has very little to do with societal expectations. It's simple biology. Not getting laid is supposed to be one of the worst things for an organism.

You're rationally right with what you say, but it's simply not very relevant. Rationality does not help with our most deeply rooted biological desires. The only thing that helps is getting them fulfilled, i.e. having sex."

From the Blackpill incel thread

I can't tell I'm just too ace to comprehend this. Is this a thing? Do women feel this? I argued it's more of a "societal expectation" thing and was countered with.. this.

Not saying this user is wrong, I just am having a difficult time understanding this.

"Our most deeply rooted biological desires" has me squinting real hard. Do women feel this way, too? Idk I'm absolutely confused af

EDIT: Please do NOT brigade the blackpill thread. No touch. Seriously.

Realization achieved: it's not an incel discussion thread: it's now an incel defense thread. What a fuckin' waste ffs..

The stock image/thumbnail shows an icing piping bag, but I just dumped the rest of my body lotion into a ziplock bag, cut a tiny hole in the corner and squeezed it into the other half-filled lotion bottle.

I couldn't find a funnel, which in hindsight would have taken muck longer to decant and I wanted to share.

Women have a tendency to focus on our negatives. What are 3 positive words you'd use to describe yourself?

Anyone got any cool shoelace hacks or styles they want to share or try?

My work is up and down like a yoyo at the moment, to help avoid doom scrolling during quiet patches I've decided to start reading (nobody at work is going to pay attention to plain text on my screen, we're all in the same boat).

I've got a copy of Naomi Altman's The Power to start off with ... any other recommendations?

(Obviously can't be anything smutty or very funny because I need to be low-key, and lighter stuff would be easier to pick up and put down when I have actual work to do)

Thanks in advance :-)

We often have a terrible relationship with our weight. We're too fat, too thin, our weights on the wrong part of our body etc. How much does your weight bother you?

Please don't post your weight, numbers can be triggering for people with a history of disordered eating

It's funtime Friday! We're playing never have I ever. It's simple, people comment saying something they've never done. Others reply saying if they have, and posing their own never have I ever.

I’ve never done makeup before, even my own, but I’d like to start learning. The sheer amount of options is a bit overwhelming though. What are your favorite tutorials (YouTube videos or channels, etc) for makeup, especially the basics?

There's certain things that are seen as classically female. Shopping, kids, crafting, gossip etc are all seen as women's stuff, but we dont all like them. What classically female things do you like?

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Far more adult women are murdered by adult men than vice versa. Women are high risk for violence and sexual abuse. We often face bullying at work.

What would help women's safety?

Crafting? New hairstyle? Thought outside the box to entertain your child? Whatever it was, tell us below!

We've all had one... what was yours?

Doing a task at work? Exercise? Potty training your child? No matter how big or small tell us!

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Most of us that wear make up have something we can't go without. Whether it's a trusted eyeliner brand, blusher, lippy or other we're often totally committed to it. What's yours?

Online dating is normality now. What are some red flags you should avoid?

So, last night I had to attend a wake. I don't know if it's only a European thing, my sisters overseas might have to google that one up just in case, but yeah, it was odd. At some point one of my best friends waltzed in with this HUGE guy, like 2 meters tall, and his tiny wife went along as well. My good friend apparently told them who I am, and the huge ass guy and his tiny wife immediately went FAN MODE:

Yoooo, your album from 2008 is in our cupboard!

I'm a shy person and being this overwhelmed with fans, that was very strange and scary to me at first. But we had a good run. Just talking about music nonstop.

To me, which I could laugh about, was the fact that I'm doing very, very different music these days, playing a different instrument, just doing my thing and yeah, I had to share phone numbers with them so I can share what I'm doing now.

A really, really weird, but fun night. Music nerds meeting another music nerd... :D

We're in a society that expects a ridiculous amount off us, and is highly critical of us. It can be hard for us to see the positives in ourselves.

What do or should people admire about you?