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I would love if my coworkers were more blunt and honest.
"Where the fuck is my spreadsheet" is very concise. It tells me what you want, it tells me what my responsibility is, and it probably tells me the level of priority the issue is for you. "where’s my spreadsheet motherfucker" is similar but, depending on our relationship, I'd take that either far more seriously or more jokingly.
I have one guy I work with who speaks like this. He had to explain himself at first then I was like, yes please continue talking to me like a human. I'm more likely to trust people who don't hide behind pleasantries and are just themselves with me.
I think you're answering your own question here.
Your blunt coworker has to explain himself or risks being taken as rude by people who don't know him. You yourself couldn't determine if he was being rude to you without some additional context.
Without further context, you don't know how to interpret an email that says where is my spreadsheet motherfucker.
In both cases, you're saying further social cues are needed to determine if someone you don't know very well is being rude or not. Hence, why people emailing people they don't know very well in a professional capacity include niceties to convey context and tone.
I usually am pleasant, though. I would feel much less human if I just demanded things!