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Telling other people Im autistic be like
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this post was submitted on 16 Jul 2023
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Instead of "I'm autistic" say "I was diagnosed with autism".
These days there's no shortage of self-diagnosed, no professional opinion needed, thank you very much youngsters walking around and behaving like world owes them a thing, just because they neither do, nor want to fit into the society. This makes neurotypical people doubtful about declarations like that.
I fully understand wanting to avoid self-diagnoses for attention seeking or blame avoiding purposes, but I tend to lean towards believing people first.
One, because there is always going to be a discrepancy between the population of the accurately diagnosed and people who have a condition, because of poor access to mental health, because of the stigma attached with seeking help for and admitting to having a disorder, cultural differences in diagnoses and because there are poorly trained mental health professionals.
And two, because rejecting people outright when they share what may or may not be a serious problem they’re facing puts them on the defensive and tells people in the vicinity that you may not be a safe person or contribute to a safe place to express themselves.
The average person is going to be doubtful anyways, unless you fit into their understanding of your expressed condition. How many times have we heard “how could he kill himself, he seemed so happy?”
I didn't get my audhd dx until i was 28 but i feel like i always knew, and i think my life might've been sightly less miserable in general if id just allowed myself to accept a self-diagnosis. the attitude of "you just want to be special" seriously fucked me up lmfao.
It's just some gatekeeping bullshit.
In the worst case, they want to kick anyone they don't like to keep their identity pure and clean (newsflash: any group that extends to 1% of the population is going to include people you don't like).
In the best case, they think that any official institution is going to dedicate significant resources to support someone without an official diagnosis, the kind of tactics that the far right uses all the time to make one minority fight against another.