Autism

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/29745932

Thats just this entire community

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/29737225

It is Friday. And I am done. This will be my first day off in two weeks.

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I thought this might be worth a share

• Do you have difficulty identifying burnout?
• Do you have difficulty identifying when you've recovered?
• How do you decide when to go back to work?

Sorry, no answers here. I was asking you...

I'm off sick from work, because I'm burnt out, and because I know what can often occur when I am burnt out (losing temper, upsetting people, getting really frustrated with people and it getting perceived as aggression).

I didn't feel burnt out, but evidence was mounting and I had a hunch that I might be. And then I reacted kind of badly to something, and I knew "hey, I'm burnt out!". The first two days off sick involved lots of sleeping, and not being able to begin menial tasks at home.

I started to feel a lot better yesterday - I say "feel", but I don't really feel it; my physical being does something or does not do something, and then I observe that it has or has not done something. I was back to doing things like housework and hobbies, and could hold a conversation with my mum on the phone without being to braindead to talk. I must be feeling better...

I started work this morning (from home today, just by luck of the schedule), and a few hours in it was clear to me that I shouldn't be back yet. On reflection, it probably hasn't really been enough time to recover, but:

1. I experience guilt that I'm just bunking off work because I don't feel like it today while I'm off
2. Each day I'm off, I'm going to have to catch up on that work, which might be stressful, so I begin to get stressed that I might get stressed in the future
3. I don't feel much in myself, it all just feels very much the same - burnt out and normal. Introspection isn't something I do well and I need to see the effects of what's happening inside me to know what's happening inside me.

I'm hoping others can share thoughts and experiences that might help me. Also, it's just nice to dump my thoughts at times like this and see that I'm not on my own in some of my experiences.

Oh, and finally: a positive I have taken away from the experience is that I seem to be getting better at preempting my burnouts, as I had the hunch it was coming before it came.

If I don't write it down I forget! I'm using one note but it's fiddly and not great. Anyone know a good note taking app? Gotta be free!

i think that'd be cool

The on call is over now. yay.

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yesterday i went to a concert of a friend of mine, then with some friends we went to his house for an afterparty. I had probably one of the most fun nights in my life (also bc we were all kinda ND). Then I went home, and all of it came crashing down: i was back in the place where i feel unwelcome, where im forced to live with my parents, who i came to hate throughout my life bc of how they give conditional love, have had many outbursts against me, fueled my meltdowns and punished me for them. Some days ago they found some weed in my room and my mom literally started talking to me as if i wasnt human, calling me a junkie and stuff. They never listen to me, when i talk about my feelings they always manage to either give useless advice or turn it personal and start a fight. For instance I've completely lost interest in uni bc they kept pushing me on the topic when i had major difficulties with it, and I'm considering dropping out bc i can't take it anymore. I can't move out bc I'm broke, if i don't finish uni I'll never be able to sustain myself outside of this fascist shithole called Italy, and i can't handle a job, let alone with uni. I feel trapped, and all i want to do is hibernate myself and forget about this world. I feel like I'm a mistake on this planet

Yep, Yeppers, sure thing we can do that.

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I am an autistic 29 year old guy who started developing a serious addiction to Instagram and TikTok during the COVID pandemic. It got worse around 2022 when I lost my job. TikTok, like Reddit, does have lots of very informational and interesting content on there and I enjoyed watching lots of travel videos as well as many math and science related videos. However even those “educational” travel videos can become toxic as it’s mainly travel influencers who travel all over the world to visit nice places and make give us FOMO. In reality, they most likely come from wealthy families, have an abnormally high carbon footprint flying to all sorts of different places, and likely staying in cheap Airbnbs instead of hotels.

Most of these problems started when I got into some problems with some younger women on TikTok I didn’t know but made me very angry for some reasons. I made some nasty messages about them until one of them called me out. Thinking about it now, I very much regret it now and I wished I could apologize. After this, I’ve been contemplating about deleting TikTok. I already uninstalled Instagram but I still don’t want to delete it completely as I have lots of great material on there from the past.

TikTok, and social media in general, has became a massive scourge for younger people. It has made marginalized men more misogynistic and chauvinistic. It has made marginalized CIS heterosexual people more homophobic and extremely transphobic. It has made people in general much more racist towards other ethnicities.

Nowadays, TikTok has suddenly became an extremely vile place for anyone who is Indian. It’s a Chinese social media giant that was banned in India for some bizarre reasons, but this means that India has become the punching bag for jokes. I don’t mean playful jokes. I mean genuinely disgusting and racist comments I am of Indian-origin (born to Indian immigrant parents) and right now there is a conflict going on with India and Pakistan. On one video, there is a comment made by an anonymous user that has over 3,000 likes that said “I hope Pakistan nukes the sh** out of India and cleans the entire world of this plague!” On another video, another comment with over 10,000 likes said “The smelliest war in the world!” India has a myriad of problems, especially when it comes to public safety and corruption. However after reading some of these comments, I am ready to pull the plug on my TikTok account and say “Bye Bye” to TikTok forever.

My new Irish Tin Whistle came in! It is loud in a good way.

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My day started at 2:40AM with a high temp alarm at a site an hour away. Once I fixed this, an outage came in an hour from that site. And now I am working on that.

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Already out on the road working. Probably going to be a long day.

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Happy Friday and Saturday Morning,

From the variety of perspectives that people across age groups, cultures, and neurotypes possess… It’s gotten me thinking a lot more about how to conceptualize respect.

Being autistic, usually it is difficult for me to gauge what the other person is thinking and desires. Unfortunately, treating others the way you would want to be treated, may oftentimes not be the mode at which the person expects you to interact with them.

I believe this may be due to a difference in definition or “feeling” of how respect is supposed to be conveyed.

How can one be more respectful? Extending the question… How can we as autistic people better adapt our behavior to provide a better social experience for both ourselves and our conversation partner(s)?

Good morning.

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So sorta semi-TIL post. For men, smoking cigarettes causes epigenetic changes which means (as I understand it) that the DNA damage caused by smoking is passed on to their children. The male sperm is damaged from the effects of smoking. There is a 'significant' chance of it causing "developmental disorders" which includes autism, ADHD and intellectual disability.

Honestly, search for the articles yourself, there are many and it's an interesting rabbit hole. I do question how long this has been known to the cigarette companies who conduct their own research.

The UK has banned smoking cigarettes for under 16s for a reason. Making such a huge policy change like that must be for a very damaging reason. NZ did too, but pussied out - presumably from the lobbying.

So I just wanted to touch base and ask who has a father who smokes / used to smoke regardless of whether you've been officially diagnosed or think you may be autistic?

EDIT: I actually expected lots of downvotes for this post. There's a great film called "Thank you for smoking" which everyone should watch.

My new whistle is coming today!

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