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this post was submitted on 02 May 2024
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Eh, that could be true. I'm just relating my experience and trying to be helpful.
I'm quite introverted, so spending time in social situations can be very draining. This doesn't apply as much to digital communication, but I do find myself delaying responding if it could turn into a social situation (e.g. someone asks if I'm busy, I'll often just not respond until it's too late, "oh no, sorry I missed this, maybe next time..."). I'm not socially awkward or anything, I just prefer to avoid socializing with people (COVID was actually fantastic for me since I didn't need excuses).
I'm imagining that a lot of single people who don't want to be single fall into that category as well. So that's where I'm coming from.
When we first met, I was super into her, and it was obvious that she was into me because she asked for my number, she texted first, etc (I walked up to her though). I really liked her, but I wasn't up to actually spending time with her, so I made excuses until I was ready to give her my full attention. But that couldn't have happened if I had stayed home. In fact, she moved out of town a month or two later, so we dated long distance for a year until we were able to be together.
So my advice is to put yourself into social situations that are relatively comfortable for you. Don't make the primary goal to find romance, make the goal to find someone that enjoys what you do (even if they're not a possible romantic partner).
That's fair advice. Thanks for your good intentions. I'm very sorry about the snark. That was uncalled for.