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I was in a long distance relationship that didn't work out... this is going back about 9 years so I have a long perspective of it now.
Long story short I was in a short but emotionally intense fling with a girl who lived across the country. We had originally met in real life on a friends trip together (as we had mutual friends) and did a couple trips back and forth to see each other in person, spending every other night apart on the phone / video chat. She broke up with me after becoming interested in a guy back home, from what I heard from mutual friends.
It really hurt, I was crushed and didn't know what to do with my time anymore. We had developed this routine that was now torn away from me and I just wanted to drown my sorrows. I ended up just going out to bars and clubs most nights to keep myself entertained. About a month later I joined the online dating pool and went on a few dozen dates trying to recapture the connection.
I found something far better though, with someone I learned I related too far more personally and hobby wise, she became my wife and we have a beautiful toddler at home i'm struggling to get to take naps by himself.
Everything about the other girl is a distant memory, I forget her names most times it pops into my head - and that's going back years now. I still remember some lessons I learned from that relationship though.
That's all to say, life moves on and that's not just a sappy saying. You honestly will recover and be a better person for it.