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Yeah I don't think this is super surprising unfortunately.
Being a man and dating men undermines patriarchial conceptions of masculinity. A lot of these conceptions are very deeply-held; I think it's easy to consider acceptance easy when it's academic or theoretical, but when it becomes personal all bets are off. Think of all the pro-gay parents, who, when their children come out, completely flip out.
I think there's also, tragically, a large element of HIV stigma in here.
Patriarchal conceptions of masculinity is aka the instincts of straight female humans.
Everyone wants to blame culture, and via the word “patriarchy” they want to blame men, for this kind of thing but it’s way deeper than that.
Why do you say “female” but follow it with “men” instead of “male”? Makes you seem like an incel or some men’s rights nut job.