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Am I love bombing?
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this post was submitted on 25 Jul 2023
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That's not love bombing. Did you love them as a means to an end? Did you try to get something specific from them in return? No? Then don't worry. Seems you just loved them, that's life.
No, I never wanted anything in return but as things started to get bad, past the point of no return, I have been told by a few of their friends that I was manipulative and that they didn't believe I had good intentions, and I have been wondering if there was truth to it since then
It sounds like you were simply in love, doing loving things. Maybe you panicked a bit when you realised it was ending and tried for things not to end? It sounds very human and I think you are being too hard on yourself.