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repost because I was out of it - suspicious of potential cheating (discuss.online)
submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by Disgracefulone@discuss.online to c/relationship_advice@lemmy.world
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Editing after time to think everything through. No idea where it came from. Prolly never will know. Works well for my Xbox and TV though, less bending over when I switch rooms etc.

I've decided some things just can't be explained and trust wouldn't be worth anything if it was easy all the time. Thanks for everyone who took the time to respond to this and the other messed up posts - even the one guy who is apparently my secret psychologist and knows me better than I know myself!

Enjoy, mates!

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Reposting this because I was out of it this morning thanks to a muscle relaxant doc gave me that I took last night - clearly was still out of it when I typed it out originally. Thanks to those who originally commented. So the general situation is this:

  • she cheated years ago at valentines day party, was bad alcoholic at time and made out with some dude. Had to find out on my own through chance pretty much, trickle thruthd me after that.

  • has not since, that I know of, and genuinely seems to care about relationship. Also never drinks anymore at all.

  • still have somewhat toxic behaviors we are both working on. We lived together for 2 years but recently moved out and back into respective parents houses due to ongoing foot injury, with me not being able to work and thus we couldn't afford bills

  • decided to stay together and spend every other weekend at hotel for alone time, see each other about 4-5x per week and sex 1-2 times.

  • Used her car to move last of my stuff to my parents, and I never bought it at the old house.. she says she may hAve but can't find receipt and isn't the type to buy something like this regardless.

  • Yesterday found a 50-80bdollar surge strip protector in her car in box, no sticker with address, and we both asked our families - no one knew where it was from.

Am I wrong to assume she may have had someone else in there and he left it in there on accident?

If I am missing details anyone feel free to ask.

Basically what I'm struggling with here is where the hell this thing could have come from since it wasn't in her car a couple weeks ago and no one seems to know where it came from including her

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[-] Disgracefulone@discuss.online 0 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

You're 100% wrong here man, sorry to tell you.

I'm here if for any reason other than venting because I want to hear a reason I haven't considered that indicates she's NOT doing what I thought.

Cheating is actually the last place I went to. We called everyone who conceivably could have left it there to try and see who was missing a nice brand new surge protector.

But I'm glad you have my entire psychological being figured out down to the core based on one post lol. Also I didn't make 3 separate posts, I made the first one zonked from a muscle relaxant, edited it once, then just deleted and reposted because I made so many mistakes on the first one.

Sorry man but you're projecting your own previous experience here or something, IDK.

Even though I didn't find the logical explanation I was looking for, I still decided to accept that some things just cannot be explained and moved on.

Great guesswork though!

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