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Dance. In a troupe full of girls. Honestly, it was me and 15-20 girls.
Other boys literally called me gay for dancing, while they went and played whatever sports they did and then all went into a locker room and showered together etc.
I honestly never understood how they thought dance was gay. I don't understand it now.
They didn't either. One idiot started it out of jealousy (i presume) and the rest just parrotted him. People and their group dynamics...
Ok so the whole "the other kids are just jealous" thing is, I think, disengenious.
Sometimes kids just suck. They make fun of other kids for anything. They aren't necessarily jealous. They might be uncomfortable. They might be vindictive at the time. They might basically be playing "spot the difference" (i.e. that kid dances, my friend doesn't dance, look that's different) so they make fun of one side of that equation.
In this case, I feel like the kids probably were not jealous. I feel like they were just idiot kids. Same end result but I don't know, it seems unhelpful to bullying victims to just tell them that everyone is jealous of them, sadly that's not usually the case.
Sure, who knows. I just assumed that some boys were very jealous of the rockstar with a whole group of girls ๐ But yeah, kids can also be just idiots. We weren't there.
And sure it's not usually the case, and i wouldn't tell that to any bullied kid. It just screamed jealousy in this particular case.
Spending hours with a bunch of ladies and possibly touching them in intimate locations.
vs
Spending hours with a bunch of guys and possibly touching them in intimate locations. Then showing with them.
Yeah, dance is way gayer.