Yes and thank you for the advice and concern. I instantly started going to church functions from several churches of varying types. Reason? People, meet regularly, free. I'm Buddhist but had started out as a southern Baptist in Missouri usa. There are hardly any Buddhist sanghas (congregation) that I can attend and isn't zoom. I just need to be be outside, walk dog for exercise. Found a divorce care support group at a local Lutheran church. Went to my first meeting already. Tomorrow on Friday is my first therapy/councilor appointment.
Called an old friend I know since freshman year and we will start hanging out again. Called mom when I was in the store bawling my eyes out for a very brief moment. She helped ground me. It's not easy. But I've done a lot in five days since I found out. My wife and I still love each other very much and are working together so we both can survive this.

She and I are civil, getting along, and going to work together to make this fair and easy. We did have a normal Christmas together, but this was still looming over our heads. Scotland is my ancestors origins and one day, I hope to visit.