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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
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LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.

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The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
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LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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[Vent] Realizing I'm trans while society is having a meltdown over trans people sucks (slrpnk.net)

submitted 2 days ago by compostgoblin@slrpnk.net to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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It would be way better to not have society be going through a moral panic about trans people at the same time I’m coming to terms with my trans-ness. I feel like I’d have to struggle with self-acceptance a lot less if I didn’t know that a large percentage of society hates me without knowing a thing about me. I don’t want to have to change out of my girl clothes or take off my makeup because I need to take my dog for a walk around the apartment complex, and I don’t know how my neighbors would treat a visibly trans person. I don’t want to have to worry about when the incongruity between my appearance and my passport is going to become a problem. (Setting aside that now for all my gender markers across documents to match, I can’t change any of them, and they’ll have to stay wrong). I don’t want to have to worry about losing friends or family or my job because I come out to them. I just want to live life being fully myself - what’s so wrong with that?

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[–] Zzyzx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I used to think I was a coward for not really being out in public. Or that maybe it was the depression. Hell, I didn't even know that being trans was a thing until I was in grad school. I just thought it was fucked in the head. I'm glad information is out there for younger folks. Braver folks. But as for me, I'm probably just going to be stuck as I am until I'm dead.

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 days ago

If it helps you at all, I thought the same thing. I'm in my early 40's, scared to death of what might happen in this political climate, and went through some very rough times in the last few years. I finally said enough last month and told my spouse. They're helping me find clothing and picking out nail polish and going with me to my clinic appointments. Find the right people to support you and you can do anything. You can even be yourself, and it's never too late.