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A collection of some classic Lemmy memes for your enjoyment
Edit: because a few comments make me worry that some are taking this seriously - this meme is a play on the type of hopeless dating posts you might find in less healthy corners of the internet. The joke is a suggestion that the real problem is that one man in the image has some sort of arrow-attracting superpower.
This isn’t true at all. Everywhere you see average guys out there with girls. Yes, attractive people gain attention. But also, average people date.
It’s the reality of dating apps, not real world behavior.
I mean, dating apps are also just "real world behavior", we don't suddenly leave the real world by picking up a phone.
The effect is just much much more pronounced on dating apps because of logistics, you can't get hit on by 100 of the hottest guys in your area in 5 minutes in real life, maybe you get hit on by 20 guys the whole evening. And those 20 guys are a local dating pool, which may not necessarily include the 20 hottest guys out of the whole area, so the hottest one of the 20 may still be average.
I’m trying to figure out how you could think that and my best guess is you’re just not familiar with modern dating apps.
There’s nothing real world about it. Women are overloaded with choice, men like everyone because they’re desperate and the apps prey on this, forcing pay to win strategies on men. It’s a brutal experience and makes you think women are just doing this for validation if you’re a guy, and if you’re a woman you just think men are dogs who would chase anything.
I'm a guy. I'm using dating apps often (poly) and have found multiple people that I'm currently dating. One person I met there just moved in with me a few weeks ago.
These people I found are the most wonderful I ever met. They're kind, self-aware, empathetic and aware of the potential pitfalls of these apps.
I like only women I actually like. I have not paid for it. The women I met aren't doing it for validation.
Yet everything you said is also completely true. But that's simply because dating apps reflect the real world, you get, in a very small percentage, good people actually worth talking to, and a large majority of people only wanting validation or will say anything for quick sex. Just like you get in real life. Most people in real life are also not worth talking to.
I fully concede that the negative aspects of people are enhanced or at least more visible in dating apps. However, that's just it, it's more pronounced, not actually fundamentally different.