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Enbyphobia sucks [CW: Transphobia] (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 weeks ago by MxPikachu@sh.itjust.works to c/nonbinary@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Got misgendered and yelled at recently by a trans woman who argued that I'm just a cis person trying to seem special and that I don't understand what it's like to really be misgendered and oppressed. She told me that I don't understand real dysphoria and that I'm just trying to stand out as a "cool dude". Ironically I felt progressively more dysphoric and angry every time she kept calling me a man. It took every last ounce of willpower in me to stop myself from beating her bloody. Now I'm feeling like shit today and probably will continue feeling like shit tomorrow.

Why are some people so fucking terrible.

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[–] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 13 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

It's often people that genuinely went through some horrible shit but now believe their suffering needs some kind of special protection

[–] MxPikachu@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Which is really stupid because I went through awful shit too. It's not exactly easy being Nonbinary, certainly not easy being both Nonbinary and autistic. I've had people tell me that I'm not really Nonbinary or not really Trans because I'm autistic and [insert BS about how I'm mentally ill and can't know myself]. Then of course there are the times I dress mildly fem and people get mad at me for it. I literally had someone yell at me once "You will never be a woman!!11!!11" because I was wearing a skirt instead of shorts.

No one can say that I haven't suffered or went through horrible shit. I've literally explained this before in the past and I was told to "stop being a whiny cis-snowflake" and to "stop appropriating the real struggles of trans women for attention".