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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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You need to stay away from those apps. They create unrealistic versions of ourselves that we aspire to, but can never truly be. It’s hard when you are first starting to explore your femininity—you want all of the changes to happen right now. But these things take time. It’s been years for me now, and I still am trying to accept myself for who I am. Stay strong, you can do this, but be patient.
Yeah, we agree, as entities who used it in the past and are far into our bodily transition with HRT the body doesn't look anything like it.
I'm not really worried about my body too much. I'm not super dysphoric about the shape (though I want my belly fat to go away). But I do really want the effeminate look in the face and hair. Are those apps still unrealistic? It's hard to imagine I'll never get to that goal point.
Yes, we were including face in body, apologies. Hair can improve, however from our understanding it requires HRT for seven years to fully recover from the effects of T. Our face hasn't changed much we think, sadly, unlike a lot of trans femmes but our hair being longer helps there.
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Yes, we think we are an odd case as most trans femmes we have seen we think look more femme than us/the body. However, we haven't exactly kept pictures over time as we both do not think to, and always found pictures of the body displeasing except for when we were really trying to look good. That is changing somewhat but most of the time we don't like it, or just don't recognise it.
that's likely an effect of dysphoria, friend.
Hmm, maybe. However, we have noticed their face fat shifted and became more conventionally femme, whereas ours hasn't from what we can tell.
Our boobs have also not gotten as big as most trans femmes who post their stuff online, sadly. Not sure if it is because we messed up and took progesterone too early or what, but they aren't that big and aren't a good shape ioo, not round emough, slightly triangular.
see, I felt this way too, but I've realized that, for me, the issue is dysphoria plus seeing the changes happen gradually, so I don't see that big change like I have in other people.
the general guidance is that we transfems max about a cup size less than our mom and/or sisters, and it tends to get spread out differently – mine are also slightly triangular, which is a totally normal breast shape for women without large boobs, even cis women.
Yeah, you may be correct about the face, we don't take pictures or look in the mirror often so might not have seen changes over time.
Ah, well, we aren't sure what size our cis women biological relations are and it feels weird to ask especially because they are transphobic and right-wing, but yeah, maybe. Thanks for the info, this might help us.
Now onto how to fix the dysphoria of never being able to have gentials that do all we wish they would, nor the ability to get pregnant.