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We disagree, instead we understand that it's what happens when you emotionally suppress somebody, when you teach them that genuine regular and healthy emotional expression is bad and thus they learn that they must suppress it all until they explode.
This is an often given idea but it's not inherent to women and it's kind of messed up that this is often seen as a good thing since it can be through very dire circumstances which they are forced to, and/or it's just society conditioning them to, it's not necessarily an inherent biological truth or anything like that.
Whilst we agree that there are a lot of ways children assigned different genders at birth are treated we wouldn't say looking after children's emotional needs is bad and there is a fine line between 'mollycoddling' and actually looking after children as they need to be. It just feels dangerous to us as seems to be being suggested here that it's okay to not look after children's emotional needs as that is what causes dysfunctional and unhealthy teenagers and adults more often than not. We do completely disagree with shaming and belittling children at all, to be clear.
Yes, the way we treat and train different people of different actual or assumed genders is extremely messed up, but we must be careful in our analysis of what is actually going on rather than looking to some, if not all, outdated or not well understood stereotypes or ideas about people, biology, sex, gender and society.
[Sincere] We hope this clears up our thoughts and viewpoints and we hope you are well 🙂.