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Is this place actually going to allow people to post?
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Due to my terrible memory it's hard for me to remember/give specific examples unfortunately I just remember that any time I tried to post something asking about ADHD it was either auto-modded and never posted or never approved by the mods of the subreddit despite never being against any of their rules.
From my experience it's an incredibly shut-down sub-reddit that enforces too many strict rules onto a community of people who don't do well in restrictive communities like that.
Oh they also heavily enforced just putting your content into their megathreads rather than allowing you to post your own thread. Despite them allowing other people posting similar content to create their own threads.
I remember it being very negative in that most posts that you'd see just scrolling through it were complains along the lines of "ADHD is the worst" and "just been fired for the fifth time" and it wasn't until my husband noted that he had heard it being a terrible sub that I realised the atmosphere was purposely that way. They discouraged self-diagnosis to the extend that seemed unhelpful, even though it could be argued that how can someone seek a diagnosis if they don't first self-diagnose? And generally seemed to consider ADHD as a curse or a disability, regardless of whether and individual would feel that way. They were openly against neurodivergence as a term:
"We consider the neurodiversity paradigm to be harmful to people with ADHD, both directly in terms of its stated goals and indirectly via constant attempts to silence us for disagreeing with them."
Yep the subreddit was so depressing all the time, and they also hated the term "neurodivergent" which I mean I don't know, let people identify the way they want to? I like queer for me in terms of my sexuality, but some don't like it, I don't like it/its as a pronoun, but I'm not gonna stop someone identifying that way.
And it's not like subs can't be a place to vent, because hey, sometimes ADHD does suck. But also the fact that it was constant depressive posts, or "my doctor doesn't believe in ADHD" or "my relative is stealing my meds". And it's just like... yeah so depressing. And like I see ADHD as a disability, because it is, but yeah... it's just... a sub to be helpful for those with ADHD, sure fuckin' hates those with ADHD.
Yeah it's not like I'd want people to feel bad for having negative feelings about their ADHD, but it might be more helpful to channel those feelings to a more positive change rather than wallowing in it. Had the sub been named r/ADHDvent I don't think people would've been so annoyed but I've heard it was difficult to post anything positive as it would get deleted under the rule of "no toxic positivity".
ADHD is such a personal thing as well it should be up to the individual to define their feelings on it. Currently I don't like to consider mine a disability mostly due to feelings of being an imposter and having one therapist suggest it may be more of a trauma related thing, but I think that should be my right to define how I feel about my ADHD and how it affects my life since it's a question of my experiences. For someone else it will affect them a lot more and they'll struggle a lot more.
Yeah I think if there was a venting place it wouldn't be so bad. And again, like not saying that ADHD is all sunshine and rainbows. But iunno dude, I just want to see how people make their ADHD work for them, or what apps they use, or whatever.
Like yes toxic positivity is a real issue, but there's a difference between "hey I finally made my bed!" And toxic positivity. Then there's also my own gripes of it being too American for me, but that's mostly because my local ADHD sub was pretty dead tbh.
Yeah and in fairness it can be easier to find something to complain about than come up with positive or even neutral topics but I found most interesting conversations to be about small things I didn't think could be linked to ADHD.
Also that's true, if it's all Americans it's hard to find out what it's like to get a diagnosis in another country or what meds are being prescribed etc.