I think I'm cis but I'm questioning my gender kinda, need advice (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 years ago by Bicyclejohn@lemmy.ml to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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I am very comftable with he/him pronouns. Always was but recently I noticed that while I don't go out of my way to use them I'm also fine with they/them pronouns being used on me.

It could be a phase but I'm not sure. It could also be that I tend to use they/them as an alternative in. I'm confused

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[-] retronautickz@beehaw.org 2 points 2 years ago

I'm assuming you're a cis man, correct me if I'm wrong.

You can go by they/them and still being a man.

Pronouns sometimes have more to do with expression and aesthetic preferences than with one's particular gender.

It's also ok to sometimes or always like things that aren't masculine that doesn't deny nor contradicts your cis manhood (same applies to cis women liking things that aren't feminine or using a set of pronoun different than she/her)

You may be gender non-conforming. If you think this gender nonconformity may influence your gender, I'd suggest you to look up Genderqueer Guy/Man

[-] Bicyclejohn@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

First of all I'm a guy teen. I'll look into genderqueer. It could be my gender but idk. Most of my masculinity Is probably marks from my time in the cult I was in for a few years.