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submitted 1 year ago by Mshuser@kbin.social to c/men@kbin.social

I came across a post that talked about this app. It's an app designed in the name of "female empowerment" by letting women endorse other guys they deem to be good to their other single friends.

And the guys on the app? They're immediately told to be on their "best behaviour" and if they do so, they'll earn rewards and points. This bit I find very condescending and not to mention misandric as it doesn't mention any toxic behaviour that women do. It also gives off the vibes of the "Toronto Unhinged list" or "Are we dating the same guy." list as well.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.hulah You can check it out yourselves here.

Dating is already hard enough for men out there, and this app will only make it needlessly harder. I wouldn't be surprised if this app attracts only the feminist types as they're the ones screeching about safety (Note: due to the expectation of men to initiate most things in dating and sometimes resorting to toxic methods to do so, I can understand women's need to be safe in these interactions especially if a man can't handle rejection, but I think the scale of safety is being inflated when you have apps or list like these.)

What are your thoughts on it? Do you think this app is a great idea to keep women safe or is it just another discriminatory practice against men and males?

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[-] RoquetteQueen@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

They're screeching about safety because men rape and murder women. Those men don't rape and murder women because "men are expected to make the first move". Women trying to avoid being raped and murdered is not misandry.

If you are having trouble dating, please try and reexamine your attitude towards and beliefs about women. This post gives a very negative impression and women absolutely pick up on that.

[-] Mshuser@kbin.social 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

@RoquetteQueen By this logic, men should also be included and endorse women on apps like this as they deal with women who make false allegations against them (and don't give me this 2% nonsense as it doesn't include unreported incidents), are just a likely to be abusive to their bfs, and even rape them. But on all accounts, no gender should be doing this. We're not products for review, and treating men and women in this manner is very dehumanizing.

I never said men rape and murder women due to the expectation to make the first move, that's absolutely absurd. But this app claims to reward men for "good behaviour." This is very vague and it does tie into "men expected to initiate" as we still live in a society that expects this from us, including feminists. But if our innocent gesture of flirting is gonna make someone uncomfortable just from showing sexual interest alone (just expressing sexual interest in an appropriate manner, not inappropriate behaviour), then that potentially becomes sexual harassment.

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