TJ made a nice video about how to start with neovim and its configuration. I hope that this link is not against the rules since it's about neovim and not about vim .... Personally I find those 2 very very alike and with the features that I need for my daily work, I can use either one of them without noticing any difference.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stqUbv-5u2s
Enjoy !
I think I already answered my own question - I just need to learn lua really well, and then start over from scratch. Being a total rookie, I have been experiencing endless catch-22's and rabbit holes. If you can't sort the simplest fundamentals, then everything is a black box until you learn what's under the hood. That's why I chose vim/neovim over vscode. Kickstart should be good when I learn how to configure it. Thanks!