Update: I contacted with current big owners, other older friends and lastly from some friends from here. Mostly all of them living in US so they don’t want/can’t host it. So I’ll keep hosting without being on moderation side. @gavi@lemmynsfw.com will post about details I guess. @gavi@lemmynsfw.com is the new top admin.
As you know, it has been 2 weeks since I opened the instance and it has grown quite a lot. Likewise, the time I have to devote to this work has increased a lot.
I'm dealing with lemmynsfw more than my IRL job right now :D This is bothering me. Also, having an NSFW instance instead of a normal instance makes things much more difficult. If you remember; I had my biggest scale fuck up with the post "we allow loli content" :) This situation wore me out. Also a lot of problems are bothering me, both as a software and as a community.
That's why I'm thinking of transferring the instance and the domain to a person I trust. Who can maintain the deployments and also know this stuff. I will also roll over any donations made, excluding the current month's expenses.
I'm sorry if I've upset anyone. That's all from me.
I wish there should be a way to have communities opt-in in regards to federation without fully defederating. Like, instead of completely pulling the plug a way of preventing things from entering all would ideal. Same thing with instance wide NSFW tagging.
Or an option for instances not to cache NSFW communities. I can tell you that even if I had the means to host an instance the idea of the collective internet being in control of what is stored on a device in my home would still deter me. The NSFW part pushes that content even closer to that line.
As far as I know, there is an option to only federate with whitelisted instances. It kinda breaks the whole idea of being a federated network, still doesn't entirely prevent "bad" posts from reaching your instance, and I don't know of any specific instances that do it.