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this post was submitted on 29 Jun 2023
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Emotional reactions to stimuli are healthy and natural. The key is developing an emotional awareness that allows to understand your emotional reactions. That's the only healthy way to control them, the alternative being the kind of suppression/repression that's been so toxic for men for the last century or more.
I recommend a feelings wheel if you are like me and having a hard time identifying and labeling feelings.
Better identifying and labelling specific feelings is important, for sure, but it's only one step. When I say "understand your emotional reactions", I mean building an awareness of the childhood and youthful traumas that can inform emotional reactions well into adulthood in ways you don't realise — because you've been specifically conditioned not to think about it.
This isn't necessarily possible to navigate alone, and definitely requires a conscious effort towards dismantling and examining the thought processes boys and young men are taught from a very young age: that feelings are for girls, and girls are yucky, so if you feel things you're yucky.
Feelings are for everyone.
I agree with everything you said.