submitted 1 year ago by StrahdVonZarovich@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

21 comments fedilink hide all child comments

Ive seen this term a few times, but never an explanation. As a person that (mostly) associates themselves with being Bi, ive never experienced any sort of "cycle". Its it just an internet injoke (cause it sounds like bicycle).

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments

[-] Bicyclejohn@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

Your attraction changes every now and then. Hate it

[-] StrahdVonZarovich@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Why do you hate it? And I dont understand why some people apparently seem to alternate between what they like?

[-] moeris@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago

Personally (m), one reason I used to hate it was because it made me feel uncertain about my sexuality. I used to think something along the lines of am I really into guys, or do I just want to be into them for some reason?. But the biggest thing that bothered me was worrying I was being unauthentic with others. I already felt like I was being inauthentic (implicitly lying to since small degree) to straight people. Once I came out as bi, and I felt more strongly attracted to women for a day or two, I started feeling like I was lying to my gay friends, too.

It no longer bothers me. Probably because I've been in a relationship with a guy, or because I'm used to it, or because I just care less about what others would think about how I identify. Or maybe even because I've met more bi folks.

[-] Bicyclejohn@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

It's just super annoying. I used to be nearly gay nowI have a slight preference for girls, still like guys tho

[-] StrahdVonZarovich@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago

Excuse my ignorance but what makes it annoying? And why is it bad that you now have a slight preference for girls?

(I assume you're an expert on this subject judging by your username, or you just like riding bicycles)

[-] nanometre@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Not the person you're responding to, but I'm also bi and experience the bi-cycle.

For me it used to annoy me because any person likes at least some consistency in their life. Especially when I was younger as so many things seemed uncertain then, that don't in the same way now. My sexuality also played on my mind more then as I was figuring out who I was, but the bicycle made that difficult, especially because you hear the narrative of bi not being real.

At some point I just figured... This is my consistency. That things change. People change over time anyway, regardless of sexual orientation. So I just lean into it now.