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submitted 11 months ago by spaduf@slrpnk.net to c/feminism@beehaw.org

cross-posted from: https://kbin.social/m/mensliberation@lemmy.ca/t/623593

Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

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[-] Magiccupcake@startrek.website 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Marriage is the ultimate sign of commitment, making your relationship legal and/or spiritual while declaring it in front family and friends.

Men who are against marriage are seemingly against commitment, but I think that comes out of a strong desire for commitment and stability.

Children are whole different issue from marriage admittedly.

[-] Faydaikin@beehaw.org 4 points 11 months ago

It's dependent on a few different things. The country you live in and such.

Some years back there was a wave of 'catfishing' stories in the media. "Get married and lose 49% of everything you own" basically.

That'll make anyone hesitant to sign a marriage contract.

[-] bermuda@beehaw.org 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

plus you've got societal expectations for marriages. honeymoons, church marriages, the recitals and all that can cost big money. even just the photography. It all costs a bunch of money that some people just don't have, and they're too hesitant to burn bridges over it. Sure, you can elope in secret right? But that's a bigger can of worms then just staying partners

[-] Faydaikin@beehaw.org 2 points 11 months ago

Yup, If we could do away with all negative economic aspects of weddings and marriage, I doubt that kind of commitment would be a problem for most men.

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