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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by OttoVonNoob@lemmy.ca to c/memes@lemmy.ml
 
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[โ€“] vzq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 41 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I used to live by that rule, but it turns not everyone likes to be treated the way I like to be treated. So now I just ask how they want to be treated.

Just a trick I picked up from the BDSM subs ;)

[โ€“] thestereobus@lemmy.ml 15 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Exactly. I had to learn this too. I am unusual in a number of ways. When I treat people how I want to be treated I am often mistreating them and damaging the relationship. People are different and need different things. You have to communicate rather than unilaterally apply your self-empathy.

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