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How do I cope with my father hating me?
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It sounds like your situation is similar to mine. My father is a sociopathic narcissist and I didn't realize it until I was 30 when he effectively disowned me. It hurts to be rejected by a parent to such a degree and I was pretty depressed for a while, but it helps to know that he suffers from a mental illness. Knowing this also helped me to disown him, in turn. He was always toxic and harmful and I find now that I am happier without him in my life.
I do often wonder in what ways my life may have been better had I had a supportive father, but it's much more productive to look forward than to lament over what could have been.
I hope that you are able to move past your father's negative influence and be better off for it. Some men are just miserable people.