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Sexuality is tightly connected to societal taboos, as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult - it's no-one else businesses. There is no need or benefit in moralizing peoples sexuality.
To be clear, I absolutely agree. I'm not saying that people are immoral for liking some plaid. Just a kind of fetish that seems less "natural" (like spanking or bdsm) and more amplified in popular media in a parallel to sexualization of children in response to feminism (see: Brooke Shields' experience) and that makes it one that I'm not comfortable participating in. But for those that don't find their brains making such associations that are being safe, sane, and consensual, I wish wonderful, freaky times.
Sure sounds like you are. And you sound also rather judgy about it. Maybe it's just a language thing - but at least that's my impression.
It may well be my communication. The first statement was something of a half-joke at the expense of the rock singer and the normalization of predatory behavior towards minors that he and others engaged in during the height of rock's popularity, not at the expense of people who like to engage in age-play.
I am very accepting of others kinks and do not judge individuals for activities that are safe, sane, and consensual. Accepting the people and their ethically-sound activities does not mean that one cannot have preferences and perceptions on the activities themselves. Our preferences and perceptions are shaped to a degree (large or small) by our experiences. Mine are most definitely colored to a significant degree by my own early childhood trauma, which makes anything approaching age-play, power-play, and CNC, even just by indirect association in my own thought processes, uncomfortable and unsexy to me.
I also find scat-play pretty disgusting (tbf, that's probably part of the kink for some) but, I'm not going to turn someone away, unless they've not showered since their last session.
Even if it means nothing from an internet stranger, sorry to hear you had traumatic childhood experiences. Makes sense that you are uncomfortable with said practices.
We can agree on something here.
It absolutely does mean something and thank you. To be clear, my intent in stating it is not to plead for sympathy but to try to give context and further understanding. It wasn't until well into adulthood that I even realized that experiences that I fortunately can't even remember had such a profound impact on my on my preferences and interactions with others. Add in diagnosed neurodivergence and I've got extra fun to boot :).
Overall though, even if I'm overly sensitive about some kinks and might well suspect associations that could possibly not factually be there, I do very much hope that anyone who gets (consensually) ambushed by their lover in a skimpy school girl outfit has the time of their lives. I'm much more comfortable with fetishizing lacey archaic garments.
That's how I got it. Without knowing you, your comments sounded judgy and moralizing to me. But with context I can see that it's not how they were meant.
lacey - learned a new word today.
I actually apparently misspelled. It should be "lacy".
It's still weird to sexualize children. It's less weird when it's teenagers and everyone is of age but it's a weird thing to engage in constantly.
It's sexualizing children in the same way as daddy porn sexualizes incest, you are taking fantasies at their literal face value without looking into what's going on.