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Sure! This happened recently and it's my favorite story of the past few weeks. My wife and I got married in 2021, and when figuring out the guest list and discussing with my family, we all kind of agreed to not invite my aunt to the wedding. My wife had never met my aunt, and had also never heard good things about her (because there aren't many to tell her). Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, my wife and I are on the way to my cousins wedding, and my (and his) aunt is going to be there! So on the way to the wedding, my wife asks me "Okay so what's the deal with your aunt again? She's just mean or something?" I struggled to come up with a good answer, because is not actually mean so to speak. She's just a genuinely unpleasant person to be around. She's the kind of person that walks into a room where everyone is talking and laughing and having a good time, and inside of 2-3 minutes she's managed to kill all joy and happiness, and the room is now awkwardly quiet and nobody is enjoying themselves. I still, to this day, could not explain exactly what it is about her that makes her unpleasant, she just is. So I essentially fumbled my way through a version of that recap with my wife.
We got to the wedding right as the ceremony was starting. Once the ceremony had finished and my wife and I are saying hello to everyone we know, and catching up with everyone when my aunt walks in (she was very late...it was not a short ceremony by any means) and comes over to where we're all congregating. I say hello and my wife introduces herself and says that it's nice to meet her. And I swear on my life, the very first thing my aunt says to her is "Hi I'm BrainisfineIthink's Aunt. We've never met because you didn't invite me to your wedding."
Two sentences was all it took for my wife to completely understand what we meant about her being unpleasant. I hope you enjoyed my story.
Oof that is rough. So your cousin is fine with her? Or they just didn't want to leave anyone out?
Nobody really likes her but it's a little more complicated for my cousin because she is his aunt by blood through his father. So she's been around his whole life. I'm only step-related to her though, and she's only really been involved in my life at holidays when she'd show up sometimes. My cousins mother (my aunt) officiated our wedding, and was completely on board and understanding of not inviting her.
Aa i see. Understandable then. Family can be so complicated. I am happy the few problems that exist in mine are not that big of a deal for the most part. Just a bit awkward in a few situations. Nice that you have nice family members too. It is so sad to read about ppl who get disowned or feel the need to separate them self completely. As in the reason they feel they need to separate not that they do it. More power to them!