@nightauthor@kbin.social I don't think you followed the story here.

The issue was the use of a specific word, that is now uncouth, but with which OP identifies

The author of this post is not trans. A trans person is someone who is assigned a sex at birth (usually based on apparent genitalia) who as they mature, feels this to have been incorrect. OP provides the following personal context and maybe this confused:

I was a bisexual male who was programming computers and having having gay sex in 1984, when most of the people online today weren't even born yet. I was wearing makeup and dresses in public, before the Calckey crowd had even heard of the word "drag".

He describes himself as a bisexual male. He feels the need to substantiate this by mentioning a specific time(s) he had sex with another man, in 1984. Being bisexual does not give you a free pass to stop learning for 40 years.

He then starts talking about drag. Drag is an exaggeration of gender characteristics and display for the purpose of entertainment. Drag happens in a show, a performance, on a stage. While there is overlap between drag cultures and trans people, trans people do not really appreciate being thought of as "in drag" because they are not putting on a show, they are just going about their lives. He describes himself as cross dressing as a way to sort of give the impression that he should be permitted to use in-group slang. He also goes on to mention that in the past he has read comments on the internet using this word as self description. Which for someone who thinks they are such an independent thinker, standing up against group think, the rationalization of "I read it on the internet" as an excuse for anything really is pretty weak shit.

Sounds like when he was a young person he experimented with feminine fashion styles but wasn't motivated to keep at it. Lots of cis (non trans) guys wear a dress, eyeliner, nailpolish etc on occasion, especially in youth. It is irrelevant to the question at hand. Probably it served to reinforce his masculine identity. A lot of people try something like that out and go "nah, not for me". Even some cis men continue with cross dressing as a recreational activity over the years, but without any desire to transition to female in their day to day. Those guys are also not trans.

Later, he justifies the comment he made as

a playful suggestion of my sexual openness towards transsexual people.

Was anybody asking if he was sexually open to trans people? From how the original context is described, I do not see any indication that the sexual attractiveness of trans people was a topic of conversation. The original meme was a picture of someone's front lawn.

As a general rule: It is not considered polite to bring your sexual thoughts into public conversation. I disagree that the comment would have been innocuous if he had used different language. From his own description it sounds like he was making a gross, creepy comment.

I've definitely been misunderstood myself,

This person wasn't misunderstood. He does not understand. And from the evidence presented, he doesn't care to. He replied to a post containing 3 words. 2 of which he didn't understand. And there is nothing to show any curiosity whatsoever. The crux of his argument seems to be that young people are always wrong.

He also seems to think it self evident that he is too old to learn. Hard disagree from me on that one too. Lots of old people keep learning right up til their last day on earth. Even older than he is. He is making a choice because it reinforces his self-image of being a contrarian without any effort. I kept expecting some sort of nuance to appear in the article because the page was so long but I don't think there is literally a single sentence int he whole thing that even suggests he used his brain for anything other than feeling sad for himself.

from what i gather in the blog post, this person actively seeks out spaces which are "run by yo-yos" then complains about it.