My children have been in the custody of a relative for about seven years. I signed them over because I had been in the process of joining the army. I was told by a recruiter to sign them over before I was supposed to be sent to boot camp. My relative is not someone I trust. When I asked her to add my children to ancestry.com she became upset and tried to cut me out of my children’s lives. Something happened when I was gone, and she won’t explain what I missed.

I asked the court for forms to request dna on my children. One of the clerical workers for family court called me and asked why I would need that. She teased, “don’t you remember what your children look like?!?” I explained that I have been apart from them for seven years and that their facial features have changed (hopefully just from aging). She kept insisting that they only, typically, offer paternity testing. She began to badger me as to why I would want maternity testing if I’m the mom of the children.

I am now in the process of obtaining an attorney to fight this in court. I have wanted dna on my daughter since 2015. My daughter was born looking blue and barely breathing. She was taken to ICU before I could hold her, and then returned to my delivery room appearing to have no health problems. She measured shorter upon being returned to me, than when she left the delivery room. I have wanted dna tests on her since she was brought back to my delivery room. After being apart from my children for seven years, I just want dna confirmation that they are the same children I birthed. I figure, why not test them both? I have wanted dna on my daughter since the day she was brought back to me in my delivery room. Why not just take dna on both kids after all these years apart? It’s not that expensive. It will put my mind at ease to know that relatives didn’t hurt them, or pull some scam with their records and distant relatives. I can’t tell you how many times my parents put us in the car, or rv, and drove us across state lines to visit “family”. It turns out, my parents might not actually be my biological parents. They don’t want to discuss that with me, and I have no adoption records with my name on them as an adopted child. Long story short; my family is shady. The kids my “mom” has in her custody today could be two distant relatives that are just using my children’s names now. My kids could be in some shack in Arkansas for all I know, while they pull their shady crap.

Am I asking for too much to have the court confirm dna on my own two kids after seven years apart?