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We have been in this exact situation before and very few people helped, even though we went to the 'professionals', and the system was/is still of very little help to us. Honestly you are better asking for the specific help you need here, either a step/post at a time or one big post, at least ioo.
Sorry for the late reply, appreciate the comment though.
See, the thing is, ask people for help and they'll usually say to seek a professional instead, and when I ask where exactly do I find these professionals they shrug and either go silent or tell me to just ask others, no clue what to do with any of that.
Regardless it should be a given to not rely on internet strangers for life issues - let alone very serious ones and multiple of them at that, that's never gonna go well, not everyone knows everything and they can't all be expected to fill in the roles of specialists and people with experience and keep up to date with all the bullshit of life and how to navigate it all, so I need professional help unfortunately, no getting around it for better or worse. So no, I'm not "better off" doing what you've suggested, trust me I've been there.
Also like, another obvious is privacy and confidentiality, not a good idea to go into detail on these things on a public internet forum.
Do you know of anything that might be helpful or no?
Okay, well we hope that you can get the help you want then.
There are no international help we would recommend, especially since you mention privacy issues, sadly most 'help' there in our experience does not care about privacy, as there have been many leaks on internet based services for help. We honestly hope you can find local help, as it's best for this kind of thing, especially in terms of privacy.
I guess except for a very few situations, internet 'strangers' have been the only ones that have ever helped us in a way that is meaningful and actually helped. That is where we are coming from on this, we hope that explains our viewpoint. We are sorry that has not been the case for you though.
We do want to help though, so: without further details of what exactly you are looking for help with explicitly we cannot help as we would not know what to search for.
Thank you for the kindness and patience, it's really appreciated.
Can you elaborate on that? Again I live in a very shitty part of the world, there's barely - if anything at all - here for people like me, and it's also risky, could be fatal for me to reach out locally and expose myself.
It's alright I understand, but different people have different lives and experiences and are treated differently, keep that in mind, not all of us are fortunate enough most of the time sadly.
Well, do you have matrix? We can talk there if you want.
But again, reason why I'm asking for a general professional/consultant of some sort is because I have a lot of life hurdles and their all linked together, don't even know who exactly to look for for what or how, and one field is not enough to tackle all of them, and getting dozens of professionals for each one of them and somehow trying to juggle between them doesn't seem realistic or doable at all, though idk how any of this works so maybe that's just how it is.