I fell like the critic in me is stronger, but i really can't compare myself to neurotypical standards
Being a responsible adult with ADHD means kind of doing both in a controlled way. What I mean by that is, ADHD gives you some deficits and difficulties. On the one hand, you can't use it as an excuse to not work on those difficulties and do your best. On the other hand, you also shouldn't be hard on yourself if your best sometimes doesn't measure up to other people's expectations. And for your sanity you should always give yourself breaks from working on yourself.
Exactly. While it is not your fault you were dealt this hand it's still your responsibly to manage it and how it effects others to the best of your ability
Have you considered taking medication like Adderall?
I am not even diagnosed at the moment. And the whole process of getting diagnosed in my country is discouraging me. And somehow I fear that I would lose an portion of "me" if I would medicate now.
I grew up without a diagnose and some how habdlrd it and coped with it enough that it wasn't directly a problem. Until last year when I get to know somebody who is diagnosed who said to me I probably have it and I am still learning what it realy means, but it helps knowing now the words to describe how I always fellt.
Sorry I got lost, so maybe someday but unsure.
I just recently got on Adderall.
I have difficulties following conversations and staying focused and on task. I also get really frustrated at myself when I get distracted and lose focus - it makes me feel inadequate and I know that I am not.
I can empathize with your fear of losing yourself, however — I am glad I have been able to support the part of myself that would struggle to focus and quickly spiral.
I can't speak for OP, but for me, after finishing an undergrad degree, the side effects of Adderall made it less tolerable than just finding a job in a field I'm actually interested in. Now I just have to deal with all the other responsibilities that being an adult entails, which sucks without meds, but at least I can sleep normally 🤷
How do you get prescribed this? Like what do you say as an undiagnosed adult
Schedule time with a physician and describe your symptoms. The doctor will make a decision around a diagnosis and prescribe if needed.
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