I don't recall where i saw the review that mentioned it but i think Volvo and Polstar are supposed to have the best controls/software. i also recall reading that Volkswagen has the worst software. Just a slightly helpful tidbit. also, if a car you're looking at has been reviewed by Doug Dimuro on youtube, he goes pretty extensively into the "quirks and features" of cars, so you might look him up.
I'm not sure how long your timeframe is but an important think to think about is that many manufacturers are switching the type of plug they use over to match the Telsa plug, allowing easier use of tesla super chargers. in my experience driving a Tesla Model 3 for three years, the non-tesla charging stations aren't very reliable. I charge at home 99% of the time though, so my experience would be kind of limited. the 1% of the time i do take long road trips i find that there are plenty of tesla superchargers for just anywhere in the eastern US.