Ada

@thedavemiester Well, this is the first time the fediverse has been how I first learned about a local disaster, so that's something...

@001100010010 I live in bone conducting headphones most of the day, but when I'm at home, it's either my crappy TV speakers or dedicated over the ear headphones

@emi What worked best for me was going in to Sephora and getting a makeover there. She didn't know how to deal with trans features and did an awful job, but I walked away from it with a lot of useful techniques that let me start experimenting in a meaningful way. It also meant that I could watch short tutorial videos and make sense of what I was watching

@julian_schwinger You can upvote it :)

@hedge @leigh

@patchw3rk I'm in the same boat! I created them before the migration, because they didn't exist. But I don't have the time or the desire to admin communities with hundreds of people. I hope this becomes easier at some point

@Roundcat FYI, it looks like you did this as a "post" rather than an "article". Posts appear under the "microblog" tab in kbin and are grouped with content from Mastodon and other apps on the wider fediverse. Articles are what you want if you want the post to appear as a regular thread in a kbin/lemmy community

I mean, to me, it sounds like it was written by someone who doesn't deal with marginalisation in any real way. No unique selling point? The fact I can exist here without being constantly harassed by bigots that have a green light from a mega social media platform that doesn't give a shit about me is a pretty strong selling point. Strong enough that having experienced it, I will never return to a centralised social media platform that isn't aggressively supportive of minority rights.

@minnieo I think the real question is how many people actually check who upvoted what?

@xray I wear pride gear, because my queerness often isn't visible to people otherwise, and I want the other closeted and scared queer folk out there to know that they're not alone. So I tell the world who I am loudly and proudly

@briongloid Not admins. Users should be able to do it.

As an admin, there is no way I can be across all of the niche subtleties and naming schemes of communities I'm not involved in. If I have to group them, I'm going to get it wrong.

If it's going to sit anywhere above the individual level, it should be at the community mod level, not the instance admin level. But of course, many community mods aren't going to want to actively point people at other larger communities that overlap with theirs.

@timbervale

@Matte I haven't found that. I mean, luck is definitely involved of course, because it has dice, but with good preparation, you can mitigate the luck elements, and it becomes more a game of longer term planning than make or break based on a single roll.

That being said, Rallyman Dirt also has an interesting change that addresses part of that. The lead player rolls different white dice to the other players, with a slightly higher chance of failure. So being in first place for too long increases your risk, but giving up first place makes it hard to be certain you'll get it back.

@ada

I always knew my gender was "wrong". It was a workmate (and now close friend) transitioning that made me realise that my gender being "wrong" meant that I'm trans, and that transition was possible.

As for my orientation, that was a much longer and more confusing journey. It brought me so much more pain and uncertainty than my gender ever did. I've given up trying to find the right labels, but that's more an admission of defeat than ownership of who I am.