Calling to be inclusive to women does not exclude men. But sure, I'll clarify. Still, I have to say, the slightest suggestion women should be included in community management sure does get a lot of male panties knotted in a bunch.

I didn't say I would exclude men. I'm male. I said I think the community could use female voices too. Excluding women from roles with authority and standing is what I mean by being the antithesis of ethical kink.

I don't exclude the possibility of other male moderators. But I do think more female and sub voices would be helpful here. Because very often they're chased away with aggressive demands by men who want to be first in line.

Do you think women's voices are well represented at LemmyNSFW and in the fediverse in general? I don't. And IMO: We'll never attract women as serious contributors and community members as long as they remain excluded from real input.

BeeHaw did that. That's one option. Another might be to try tweaking the sorting algorithm. A third might be to institute more stringent mod rules in countering abuse directed at contributors, especially OC contributors who expose themselves - both their bodies and their emotions - to public scrutiny. Can you imagine what it must feel like to post imagery of your nude body, only to get critical comments about your appearance, or lude PMs demanding sexual favors, and see no enforcement of community guidelines?

Perhaps some mix of all three. Or something I haven't thought of.

Reddit has hundreds of millions of users and the platform is highly active, making it suitable for pros to submit work for profit. Or as a means for amateurs to break in and see if they can build an audience.

Reddit is a business plan for many creators. The large audience there gives submitters incentive to put up with the horrible abuse they face from poor moderation and terrible users. And still, as you note, OC creators flee. Comparing our relative numbers of fleeing contributors per capita as being similar to Reddit isn't the win you seem to be arguing for.

Look, when some of the largest communities don't see posts for weeks, that's a sign something is wrong. We have disincentivized contribution to the point where stagnation has set in. That's a clear sign some change is in order. What that change should be, I don't know. But simply refusing to accept these clear signs as doom and gloom leads to refusing to recognize a problem. And if you don't see a problem, you can't act to fix it.

Users who block do so out of personal interest. That is, there's something they don't want to see, so they remove it from their feed. This is as intended. Therefore, those who persistently downvote have different reasons than simply not wanting to see something. No, either they're voting tactically to benefit their own submission, as OP suggests, or to suppress the existence of whatever content they're voting on. In both cases, these are the bad actors you refer to. Because their interest in voting is not to curate but to destroy. That particular community, or perhaps the site itself.

I think there are people on Lemmy who wish to see NSFW content entirely removed from the network. We saw an immediate defederation by the .ml communities, for example. These are closely linked to Lemmy devs, who seem to have an ideological purpose behind creating Lemmy, .ml standing for Marxist-Leninist. Now, ironically, Marx and Engles both wrote in support of women's economic and sexual freedom. I think Engles in particular would have been pleased at the idea of women doing with their bodies as they wish, even if that was exhibitionist on a platform like this. And it should be noted, the Leninist October Revolution led to a sexual liberation movement in Russia that was only suppressed by Stalin after he gained power.

I don't think devs and the .ml community have read deeply into the original sources they espouse. But regardless, I think there are some people who want to see LemmyNSFW fail. And they're actively working to achieve that end.

I don't know motives. I can't read minds. But that it drives away contributors is something I'm pretty sure of.

This is fantastic. Thanks for sharing!

I have to be honest. The source material here is... well, amateur is being nice. But it has two camera angles for an intercut, so I was able to condense the work. It's Odette Delicroux and Star Nine, who I think have moved on to being in work with higher production values. I certainly hope so! 😆

It is just a tease, and there's no money shot. But I do like the result.

That is an amateur performer. Regardless, most people would assume you meant to disparage her by implying she faked the orgasm.

Further, I think you know this and are simply trolling here. I don't think you speak in good faith.

The rules here are simple: be respectful and polite.

Super happy to see this sentiment. My feeling is that a porn only community won't ever break out into a general place where people support each other. Nothing wrong with porn. I like it too. 😆 But bondage in general is so much more than just porn. We need the porn. But we also need a place for people to help each other learn and do bondage.

That's JMO. I don't want to dictate everything. But I do hope more people feel welcome and safe to post and comment.

I'd call you two a super cute couple, but you're in a dinosaur suit so I have no idea about you. 🤣😂🤣

Your partner gets my 👍

And I love that leash story.

Hey, I've noticed two things since the downtime and migration.

1. NSFW is no longer automatically checked on submissions. I can deal with that, but it used to be automatic here.

2. When I submit a new entry, the submission hangs with a spinning wheel. But I notice that the actual submission goes through. Don't know why the web server just hangs like that. But it is annoying.

Thanks for all your hard work!