[-] BeaPep@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago

Right?? That's pretty much what it seemed like to me too. No doctor really wanted to go into it except one mentioned that "any surgery with anesthesia can be dangerous!" and I remember I ditched that doctor on the first visit. I think a lot of it is rural areas have... less than great doctors.

Most of my doctor hopping was at least 9 months ago now so it all kinda just blurs together now.

[-] BeaPep@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago

I might try this! I haven't tried Planned Parenthood yet.

Honestly I feel like I've tried everything to make them listen!! I've brought my wife with me to the appointments!! I've mentioned that I first brought up hysterectomies at 17 when I suffered from multi-week periods! I've mentioned I'm asexual and that I'm married and never even had sex so I don't see kids in the future!

But I do get that doctors have to worry about the liars. I can get why it's important to have the option to sue a doctor who wronged you but I wish there really was an intensive disclosure you could just do rather than run around until you find a doctor who's willing to trust you not to regret it. It sucks all around.

[-] BeaPep@sh.itjust.works 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I actually tried three different providers from the childfree subreddit. One ended up refusing me entirely due to no insurance (I'm in Georgia and Medicaid hasn't been expanded yet. Though there was a mini-expansion this year.) and another actually worked with me over the phone for around 2 months without making me go to an appointment and pay just to see if I had enough... "evidence" or something that they could sign off on a hysterectomy. They ended up telling me I'd need to at least re-try several things first. I couldn't afford the surgery plus 5+ visits several hours away. The third closest option from the childfree list was in another state and couldn't see me unless I had their state insurance coverage.

I'm trying the Depo shot now from the health department but it hasn't helped at all. Thank you though! It's a long road ahead.

Edit: The provider who worked with me over the phone did offer me an ablation but they couldn't guarantee that it would fix the issues and it would cost me my entire hysterectomy savings fund so I just couldn't justify it. I may have the term "ablation" wrong because I remember I spoke in depth about it and one other very similar procedure... Either way they were very nice at least and I can see why they are on the list.

[-] BeaPep@sh.itjust.works 46 points 10 months ago

I've been to several different OBs trying to solve my almost-two-year-long-period and every single one of them refuses to do anything for me. I'm just "too young" for them to stop me from having kids one day. And giving me a hysterectomy is "too dangerous" and "risky" when my life isn't in danger. It doesn't matter that I've tried everything they suggest. Try it again!! It's so fucking tiring.

I've just given up paying the constant doctor fees to see asshole doctors anymore and just figure I'll either stop having the problem eventually or I'll be "old enough" (40 maybe?) to finally get surgery... It's all a nightmare, especially in the religious south...

[-] BeaPep@sh.itjust.works 1 points 11 months ago

I'm honestly not entirely sure of the entire electrical situation inside yet. I do plan on having him look at the outlets for me when he does the job, though.

The outlets inside the home are almost all 2-prong. Some are shaped a bit weird, I believe the weird ones are "alternating current" outlets. The inside breaker box is new (2015 I believe). The house has no grounding and it seems this process will add... some grounding, just not for the inside outlets (since that'd be double the price).

I think I'll try studying some electrician books or something eventually so I feel more prepared for future upgrades. Obviously not to do anything myself, just to understand better! Eventually it'd be nice to have solar...

Either way, I'm just adding in some extra info for fun -- the job is scheduled for soon so hopefully the move will go smoothly! Thanks! Everyone was very helpful and even this comment taught me some terms to look into.

[-] BeaPep@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago

Absolutely. I plan on contacting the $2,102 priced electrician tomorrow and asking if once he finishes the job if he can at least look at the outlets and breaker box and let me know if there's anything overly dangerous that we need to try to put aside money for next. Thank you!

[-] BeaPep@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago

I see. This helped me understand a bit!

Unfortunately it's definitely not affordable for now to do new outlets in every room if it will double the price... Though I'd love to. Our current home also suffers from ungrounded outlets and well, honestly, most homes in towns like these do. It'll definitely be a priority in the future but there's so much we need done for now...

I'm glad I assumed right to not go with the $500 guy. It seemed so low for the cost the other 2 we're giving me!

Really appreciate you explaining and your opinion!

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Hello! Think this will be my first actual post so hopefully I don't miss anything.

We recently bought a house which needed some electrical work done, but it turned out it needed a lot more done than we thought... We haven't moved in yet but basically, the overhead lights barely work and if you plug anything into an outlet then all of the lights turn off. The lights also flicker a lot -- but that comes and goes.

We've been in touch with the 3 closest electricians (the home is in a town under 1k population) and one was nice enough to go to the house for free and look at the outside "meter can." He provided this estimate (copied and pasted exactly), along with a price of $2,102 USD.

The house was built in 1920.

"Included labor/materials (install):

  1. 10ft-2inch PVC conduit.
  2. 2inch weather head.
  3. 20amp Meter panel combo.
  4. 4/0 THHN service wire.
  5. 1-2pole 60amp breaker (AC unit)
  6. 1-2pole 30amp breaker (water heater)
  7. Upgrade grounding system."

I thought the grounding system upgrade meant he would turn all of the 2-prong outlets in the house into 3-prong outlets but he told me that doing that would double the price.

(The other two electricians I constacted didn't see the meter in person but quoted "$1750" and "around $500.")

Could anyone explain what upgrading the grounding system would do? Also, does it sound like all of this will fix the problem I've described? I've never dealt with electrical work before and I'm just worried as this is a huge amount of money for people in rural areas like ours, and if it doesn't fix it then I won't be able to afford another try or move in...

BeaPep

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