[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 months ago

Yay, I am so happy to read this!! You have a big heart! Thanks for spreading love in this world

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 6 months ago

I’d love to join too ! I don’t know any communities on Matrix, but if there’s none we can start one

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 6 months ago

Trans girl checking in! 🏳️‍⚧️ 😇

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

My week was emotional but good! I finally came out to my brother as trans. I was so scared for his reaction.

I prepared a letter, I read it out loud to him half crying and I noticed he had watery eyes too. When I finished reading he hugged me 🥰 and said he just want me to be happy and I felt soooo relieved. Afterwards I received a very thoughtful and supportive message from his gf, who I told him could tell too later. This helps me so much with accepting myself for who I am.

I also baked a cheese cake and some french pastries for an Easter brunch at my mom’s. The brunch was great!

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

I see it a bit differently. I think your role in life is whatever you define it to be. Whatever makes you happy.

Would you say any infertile woman is not a woman? Did they fail life because of it? Would you say people that don’t want children are neither men nor women? Is there a difference between being female and male? Sure! But not being able to bear a child doesn’t disqualify you as a woman. Gender is just a construct society made up.

It’s good to question your identity, so you can be who you truly are.

Edit: No reply.. I was hoping for a good discussion, but I guess that’s out of the question as you did reply with insensitive and superficial comments to others 🤷‍♀️ You can do better

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 6 months ago

Yay! Congratz Kaityy ! Welcomee 🥰

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 6 months ago

Zea couldn’t have said it better haha

For me it helps a lot to talk about it. About all of it really! About what bothers me, what gives me joy and anything in between.

I recently joined a group therapy while I wait for a specialist to talk to. I hesitated going to the group sessions, because it was scary to be so vulnerable to complete strangers, but I’m so glad I did it! It helps to see others struggle with similar stuff and hear how they deal with it. And everyone is so helpful and supportive! I love it 🥰

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 7 months ago

Woow! You look a-mazing, it’s really cute!

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I had dinner with a couple of old close friends. I wasn’t ready to tell them about me yet. The whole dinner just felt weird not being able to talk about it.

I didn’t know how to act: myself or pretend and I felt a bit sick going back and forward between them. It was good to see my friends but the whole thing was just exhausting.

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 7 months ago

Thank youuu! Yes she’s truly amazing 😊 I’m baking her an apple pie this weekend as a little thank you for the happy moment and the dress ☺️

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An Unexpected Dress (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

[CW?: supportive family member]

Hii girls! Omg I just had an amazing experience with my mom and I needed to share. My mom and I have been chatting about online shopping and my mom had just bought some dress and a maxi skirt. She showed me both and I said they both look cute and how she had such a good taste.

Then she explained the dress didn’t really fit her well and then I noticed she hesitated to ask me something. And I was like mommm what’s up and she asks me if I wanted to try the dress. I said yes!! Omg and girls the dress looked so unexpectedly great on me I almost cried. I needed a hug and told my mom this made me so happy. She was like: ooohh but then it’s so clear to me now. It’s so clear. 🥰 She told my I could have the dress 😊 Then she pulled out other dresses for me to try.

I told her it was so great to have our first “mother daughter”-moment and we both had tears in our eyes of happiness. That’s allll! Sending you all my love ❤️

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Hi probably Amber, congrats! Great name btw :) It’s great that you wrote all this down! Writing can really help processing all the things on your mind! At least it does for me. When I was exploring I started to write everything I wanted to in a diary and it can be such a relieve sometimes just to put all your thoughts on paper or your phone.

My advice as a freshly cracked egg: Take it a step at a time. Maybe create a little timeline: 1. Get a therapist 2. Research what to do about balding 3. make a plan to lose weight etc

Do one little scary thing at a time and repeat until it’s no longer scary.

The only way is forward; you can make new girly memories. I started to, consciously and unconsciously, mimic women around me. Just like a little girl would I suppose to learn how to be a woman.

Sorry if I have too much unwanted advice!

Know that you’re not alone & be kind to yourself ❤️

[-] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 8 months ago

I have postponed reading this for so long and now I decided to do it and I couldn’t stop reading because so many things resonated, thanks for sharing ❤️

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