We have sat down and had this talk. That was and is happening. She just feels like she's letting me down, I feel like I'm letting her down, but we both are trying.
And thank you, its really comforting to know even though it's a "me problem" its not a problem with me. Just gotta figure out stuff again.
It's so fricking hard. I'm over 30 and not understanding my body that I thought I knew for so long is rough.