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[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

But the alternative mentioned doesn't exactly work. Even if your intention is to save your own children they will still be exposed, whether you k Like it or not.

There are a lot of different things people can do, locally or otherwise:

  • Demand accountability from platforms by way of pressure on your representatives. And no I don't mean age verification, I mean using some of their profits to better moderate content online.
  • Support politicians who push for responsible social media.
  • Get involved in your school's PTA or equivalent, and raise the issue, form a group with parents and teachers to learn about the issue and work on ways to tackle it.
  • Reach out to organisations that are fighting against this problem and ask how you can support/get more involved.
  • If appropriate, empower your kids, especially boys, to speak up and stand up for those who can't stand up for themselves. Teach your kids what behaviours are not ok and if they see those behaviours to act (whether that means speaking up or reaching out to adults to intervene).
  • Stop giving money to irresponsible organisations who perpetuate the problem and instead start supporting companies that use ethical practices (though I acknowledge that's usually not simple nor cheap).
  • If you're a man, support and/or get involved men's groups that are working to address the problem, especially through outreach programmes to young and vulnerable boys and men. If there isn't one, look to start one in your community.

Those are just some I could think of off the top of my head. Change doesn't happen overnight, it takes action from multiple people. But throwing our arms up and putting the responsibility on the victims alone (which doesn't even work) is not it.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I don't think telling women and girls to stay off social media is going to fix the issue. She also talks about this kind of language and views being parroted in real life. You can tell your kids to stay off social media but that doesn't mean they're going to be immune from this if other people don't do the same. The bigger problem is boys are being radicalised online, and no one is coming down on social media platforms that profit off of this happening.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 21 points 5 days ago

To be fair it seems like they replaced an old wooden pole, not an actual tree.

 
[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

I've been told it tastes milder than parsley and that blew my mind.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

I have the cilantro soap gene and blue moon beer tastes like dishwashing detergent to me.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Horse racing too

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

tending to be more negative for parents facing more challenging conditions

I think the above point of the study is key. If you are already facing significant challenges in life (economic, psychological, physical, etc), adding kids is not going to make it any easier, and might make things worse. I know it's anecdotal but I'm personally pretty satisfied with my life, and that's continued to grow alongside my kids. But as I mentioned in my previous comment, I have the resources and support I need to make that happen. I also live in a country that provides a lot more support to families than somewhere like the US. Not going to say having kids is all muffins, puppies, and unicorn farts all the time. But it's been fulfilling to me, and if I had to go back and do it all again with my kids, I absolutely would.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I don't think kids are the biggest barrier to enjoying your hobbies. They're not latched at the tit 24/7 for decades. I think the bigger issue is people have unrealistic work loads/hours, aren't paid enough, and have lost a lot of the support that used to exist.

Sure, when my kids were small I had a lot less free time, but I still had fun doing childish things. As they got older we ended up trying a lot of things I would not have attempted if it weren't for them, especially outdoor sports. Now they're both a bit older and more independent, I have more time to do my own thing. I work from home a few days a week and use that time to go to the gym. On weekends my wife and I take turns so I can go birdwatching - sometimes I take them with me. I'm about to start volunteering at a wildlife rescue in the coming weeks because I have more time on my hands. In a few more years they'll be even more independent and probably less interested in hanging out with us as much, meaning even more free time.

I can understand having kids doesn't appeal to everyone, and I don't think people who don't want kids should be berated into having them. I also recognise all of this is only possible because I have an extremely flexible work schedule and my wife and I earn a decent living. But to say that having kids is the reason people can't enjoy their hobbies anymore is disingenuous at best.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I'm also not entirely convinced this isn't AI. The babies don't look anything like the ones I've seen in photos before, especially the eyes and the head shape.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I agree with everything you've said except the bit about snails. People were already eating snails back in ancient Rome, probably even earlier than that. The French did however have the brilliant idea of drenching their snails in garlic+butter+parsley.

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 28 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

That's one more point for superb owls - ad free!

 

After a couple of failed attempts to find them in another area, I spent three days in a spot where multiple short eared owls had been spotted. There was a group of at least 4 in one field who'd come out each evening around sunset to hunt. During the day they'd be sitting camouflaged in the high grass.

What I found interesting is that even though they were hanging around near each other at rest, when it came time to hunt, they would frequently rush at each other and squabble. Clearly they weren't among friends.

Another funny behaviour was how they would react to crows that also hung around the field, and vice versa. It's common for crows to harass birds of prey in a group, loudly crying out (it's one way to find out where there are owls even). But these crows acted a bit differently. Individual crows would from time to time come and annoy an owl just sitting around minding its business, but not as frantically as I'm used to seeing them. But what was even more incredible, the owls would do the same to the crows. It happened several times, but I've not seen something like that before.

I had a blast watching these guys and gals, it was a great way to cap off 2025. With that, I wish all superbowlers a great end of 2025 and/or start of 2026!

 

I got a tip for a LEO winter roost and sped over when I got the chance. There were no less than 10 owls in the tree! Apparently this specific spot has seen up to 50-60 owls in some years. What's incredible is that this willow tree is right next to a primary school in the outskirts of a small city. There are people coming and going all the time. People know the owls are there and come have a look but they stay unbothered (they do peek at you lazily though). I really wonder why they picked this specific spot, it's really unexpected given how busy and loud it gets.

Here is a shot of another two amigos in the group:

And one more where I felt like going a bit more artsy:

 

I stumbled upon a few long eared owls somewhere I wasn't expecting to find them. Couldn't get a better shot but was so happy to see them very clearly for the first time. They're not very big but their stare is intense.

 

I took this photo last month about an hour outside of Paris in France. I went to this spot looking for barn owls and stumbled on this guy, which was a hell of a treat! I did see the barn owls in the end but it was too dark to take a decent shot without a tripod. They were super close too, one flew over my head making a ghostly rolling screech. It was magical.

I also heard a tawny owl nearby! Not sure what it is about that particular village but owls seem to be major fans. I'll definitely be heading back!

 

I need some advice on shoes as I'm reading a lot of material but I'm still not sure weightlifting shoes make sense for me.

I'm looking for shoes to use exclusively for lifting (no cardio nor crossfit). I'm following the Stronglifts 5x5 programme for now (squats, bench press, rows, deadlifts and ohp, with some pull-ups and hanging knee lifts added). I'm not lifting heavy yet, but I feel my regular shoes aren't cutting it, especially for stability.

I see weightlifting shoes like the romaleos and powerlifts recommended for squatting, but I currently have no issues going deep on squats, with or without shoes. I'd like more lateral stability, but not sure forking out a couple of hundred euros on shoes is worth it if I'm not struggling with squat depth. I see flatter shoes or barefoot/socks are recommended for deadlifts, but I don't want to get two separate shoes to lift. Should I still look into weightlifting shoes or go for something else?

 
 

My son is starting to get into Warhammer and so far he's learned the mechanics of Age of Sigmar, but he still isn't sure what road to go down. Normally he'd go for whatever my brother in law is into (he introduced him to MTG, obviously the gateway drug) but he's not deep into Warhammer yet (BiL was gifted a Necromunda squad) so my son will have to figure it out for himself.

Assuming most people here picked 40k over Age of Sigmar, I'm curious to know what motivated your choice? He's painted a few random figurines he was gifted, but is now giving serious thought into going further. We'd welcome any tips on where to start!

 

A resident Tawny Owl sitting cosy in their nest. The photo was taken last week in Paris, this particular nest has been used by tawny owls for at least 10 years (likely the same owl?)

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@anon6798@lemmy.world is singlehandedly keeping this place alive so I thought I'd also participate and share a photo I took last month. This is a burrowing owl I photographed on the grounds of a hotel in Brasilia. A couple of these guys made their burrow in a little ~~hole~~ hill at the bottom of the garden and were seemingly unbothered by hotel guests that were walking past. I have a couple of other shots but this is my favourite. Thanks for all your superb owl posts anon6789!

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