JCSpark

a) Nobody should ever need someone to make them feel complete.

b) What happens when the man (or partner) isn't in a rut? Is his partner still the "Queen"? He doesn't need anyone for the highs along with the lows?

This kind of toxic "traditional" crap is what leads to relationships where one or both partners feel trapped and obligated to stay in the relationship. What if, hear me out, all involved partners are treated like equals and human beings, all of the time!?

"Can't handle me at my worst, don't deserve me at my best". Cut the shit. Grow up. Be better. Be accountable.

Supporting your partner is real, and I'm here for that. Making then dependant on you is not.

Nope, don't think I like this. No one should have to materially change themselves to conform to a relationship. That's a clear lack of boundaries on their part. At the same time, no one should have to allow themselves to be abused (or poked).

Recognizing when something isn't working, or there are just too many incompatibilies, is a sign of self awareness and personal growth.

This image doesn't show a healthy relationship dynamic, and I think that just needs to be acknowledged.

I have, and it's working out just fine! Negativity doesn't encourage growth and exploration. High standards and low expectations do.

Good question, and I'm happy to answer.

My personal wealth is damn near zero (and also no one's business, but relevant here). A series of events led me to losing a number of assets, and scraping myself up from a deep depressive stretch.

A ton of therapy, personal development, and some medication has helped me to live a healthy balanced life. That's what my partners find attractive. It's not my wealth or abs, but the work I've done my myself.

Interesting. I don't find that's the case at all. I'm certainly not "stacked", yet I've managed to find two partners that I absolutely adore. They each have other partners as well.

I'm pretty sure being open, honest, and vulnerable with a high EQ is far more important than having great abs. Don't get me wrong, I'm going to the gym when I can, but real open relationships are about more than sex appeal and jealousy.

...can’t ~~have sex with~~ rape these ones...

FTFY

I'm running Mint on my Desktop/Gaming rig, as well as on my laptop and a microslop surface. I have some old hardware I'm considering trying vanilla Debian with, to try it out.

I like to stick with distros based on Debian/Ubuntu as I'm familiar with the utilities. Default settings and locations of things change, but I don't mind finding those if the base architecture is familiar. I spun up a VPS with Ubuntu on it, and I was very comfortable getting it set up due to this.

I've also looked into a way to sync my OSs, but that's a whole other animal, from what I can tell. I just have a markup file shared with Syncthing that gives a little To do list when I'm setting up a new machine.

That being said, I have an old laptop and a Ventoy USB loaded with distro images that I like to boot up now and then. Puppy, Kali, and Pop are some of the really interesting ones.

+1 for Niagara. I've been using it for quite some time, and I love the simplicity of it. No clutter and just a quick launcher. I have a widget stack for my calendar, tasks, and Firefox search.

Or... Migrate to another email service provider?

I wouldn't necessarily call myself a "power tripping asshole", just someone that has a different perspective on paid software.

I appreciate your views, as they lead to good discussion, but I won't tolerate childish insults. I won't ban you, but I will ask that you conduct yourself properly while sharing your opinions.

It would seem we can't have a civil discussion about this, so I've locked the post.

I found dating challenging as well. What I noticed though, was that the quality of matches went way up. The few folks I'd chat with were open, clear with their expectations, and knew what they were looking for. No aimless dating and assumptions.

The same can be said for monogamous relationships, but we're not taught how to be clear with our needs, making assumptions and guesswork the foundation for relationships.

I'm glad you've found something that works for you, and I'm proud of you for challenging yourself.