Patient Gamers might be a community that interests you. https://lemmy.ml/c/patientgamers
My PC is over 7 years old now. It was cutting edge at the time of build (because of VR) and it can still play many of the new titles that come out with medium/high graphics, but generally, however, I don't bother with new releases. Most new releases in modern gaming are cripplingly expensive bug filled messes that are close to being unplayable for at least 6 months to a year after release. Recent games I've played/replayed are Monkey Island, and Syberia which are both over 15 years old. There is a huge library of great older games to dive into using older tech without chasing the latest shiny release that has grabbed everyone's attention or having to upgrade your hardware every year.
When I do upgrade I will again buy hardware just below cutting edge. Not the best you can get as it usually has a crushing price premium but as good as is reasonable and affordable as it provides longevity and reduced waste over constant low level upgrades (hence my 7 year old gaming PC). Second hand is of course always an option especially now the era of GPU powered crypto mining has passed and you can probably buy used graphics cards now that haven't been thrashed to within an inch of their lives.
An interesting read that confirms many of my thoughts regarding the rise of negativity and hopelessness in the modern world. It explains much of what I feel well. Thanks for sharing.
I don't know where you are based, but if in the USA be aware that Sailor pens have a dramatic markup over the home and other foreign markets. I generally advocate buying local but both my Sailors have come from abroad and saved me a lot of money. Actually I probably wouldn't have brought them at all if paying US prices. My Pro Gear Imperial Black came form Amazon Japan for $200. The same pen is $470 plus tax in the US! My Cult Pens exclusive Gunmetal PGS Midnight Sky was $180. Regular PGS run around $220 and that is without the plating on the Cult Pens edition
Buying from abroad has its risks and drawbacks but when using a reputable seller it can save you $$$. The Gentleman Stationer discusses the situation here in his re-review of the Imperial Black. https://www.gentlemanstationer.com/blog/2019/2/2/battle-scars-revisiting-the-sailor-pro-gear-imperial-black-after-five-years
Also be aware that the 21k nib, while having very little flex, is actually quite soft and easily sprung or bent if roughly handled.
Did you keep your Visconti Bronze Age? That is one of the few pens left on my wish list but I know their nib QC is abysmal and if/when I have the funds I know I will have a hard time paying their prices for a pen that I'd probably have to send straight off to a nibmeister.
Midori MD pads with one of their covers work well and aren't too expensive. Available in A5 and A6 if I recall. Otherwise as already mentioned I like the 90gsm Rhodia or Clairefontaine notebooks. The 80gsm Rhodia paper (found in a lot of their pads) always feels like the backside of the paper has less coating on it and not as enjoyable.
In some cases it isn't the pen that is at fault. If a cartridge or converter has a bad seal where it attaches to the feed it will allow air to enter the system uncontrollably and so the pen will leak. Re-seating and if necessary replacing a stretched or damaged cartridge or converter can resolve this.
As much as I can although due to moving they are all currently all packed away.
Normally, I use them in Bullet Journal which is an organizational tool rather than a way to unpack my feelings. I've toyed with traditional journalling but I just don't feel my life is interesting enough to write about. Otherwise, odd notes for work and home life and I have brought some books to learn and practice my penmanship. I also try to write the odd letter around the festive season to some of my older relatives that still appreciate real letters.
Did you read the book?
The main takeaway of it is that slowly and pervasively we have been manipulated into handing over our focus. The techniques have been sophisticated and subtle.
If I were to convince you that it was worthwhile to hand over your life savings to me and then it was pointed out to you that you had been manipulated in to doing so, would you not take the view that the money had been stolen from you?
Similarly, for some, telling them to go cold-turkey on tech and social is not massively dissimilar to telling a smoker to just quit smoking, or a alcoholic to just stop drinking. Our brains have been conditioned to want the dopamine fix that our vices give us and it is a strong motivator. Just stopping is not that simple.
But to respond to one comment "we, as as society, are also in charge of gaining our attention back", that is actually what the book leads to. In the realization that singularly the deck is stacked against us to fight this as much as we may try. It is hard to succeed and easy to fail. But as an organized group or body with the power and/or ability to collectively resist the methods of big tech, to legislate against the situation we are in now where the public are the commodity and the advertisers are the real client to social media companies, to make us the real clients who are catered too, then we stand a better chance.
Not a parent and can't help much but I do understand you pain.
I've moved every few years for the last 15 years and just downsized a two-bed to a one-bed apartment. The result...there is too much stuff in it. As I was packing I felt the same resentment and hate towards all the things that just kept filling up more and more boxes. As much as I don't like it, I've tried to hang onto that hate and it is fuel for the process now as I'm working to reduce my junk to fit a smaller space.
The process is hard, as selling in person or online is surprisingly hard work (I'm introverted and time poor right now). I'm only doing it for the big-ticket items to spare my sanity. The rest is being donated or as a last resort trashed. It is painful to see the money that was sunk into those items literally being thrown or given away and to consider the unnecessary waste but I'm using the experience as a learning moment and as hard as it is I'm being sure to fully experience the pain of fiscal loss and poor environmental stewardship on my part. It will help make me even more thoughtful before future purchases.
I live in the U.S. and rent prices are climbing at an unsustainable rate with frankly unscrupulous behavior by some (corporate) landlords to squeeze every last cent form you. Combine that with other cost-of-living increases and it seems we are headed into an era of having to move frequently just to be able to afford a roof over our heads. It is motivation for me to live lightly to make the increasingly frequent event as painless as possible.
I recommend the article author's book Stolen Focus. An interesting read. Not so much a self-help book providing solutions to the problem (such as Cal Newport's Digital Minimalism or Deep Work books) but an analysis of the problem and in some ways vindication for us, the masses, who are being constantly manipulated by tech companies that spend billions on psychological methods to keep us hooked and brainwashed.
One of the most impactful parts of the book, for me anyway, points out that while we assume smart speakers and phone assistants are listening into our private conversations to provide the data necessary for Google and their likes to miraculously provide ads for things we may have talked about offline with a family member or spouse (a scary prospect in itself) the reality is even more scarier. They don't need to listen (although if they can I bet they will), they already know us better than we know ourselves to the point that they know what we are likely to think about before we even know it ourselves and so provide the right ad at just the right time giving the creepy sensation that they were somehow listening to us.
The book has made me much more privacy conscious. Tech is unavoidable but don't put all your eggs in one basket. Spread your tech needs and subsequently your data across multiple different companies that have better track records for privacy. Make it harder for any one company to connect the dots and be able to know you better than you know yourself!
HP Premium 32lb paper is widely regarded as the best fountain pen friendly printer paper. $15 for 500 sheets. It is really thick (120gsm).