[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 1 points 37 minutes ago

They asked why people are so hateful towards people with NPD... I tried to explain it. People with NPD usually hurt everyone around them, and then SEEMINGLY refuse to recognize the hurt they've caused or that they themselves have the problem/are the problem. Which is why people feel so strongly against them.

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 2 points 44 minutes ago* (last edited 26 minutes ago)

Experience... And perhaps a little over zealous. I was trying to convey that it's not the person with NPDs fault, but I think it came across as hopeless.

Here's a quick grab from a Google search:

Targeting the Defenses That Sustain Narcissism

"Treating narcissism can be complex and multi-faceted. That’s because many of the hallmark behaviors of narcissism are the very ones that create enormous barriers to change.

Creating a therapeutic alliance in the face of defensiveness, denial, and a lack of self-awareness can sometimes feel like a hopeless cause. It can also seem uniquely challenging to execute even the gentlest intervention without activating the client’s defenses."

They asked why people are so hateful towards people with NPD, and I tried to explain it as simply as I could. With experienced, professional help, there's hope for people with NPD... But the disease itself is resistant to treatment, and almost any lay person trying to help is likely going to burn out fast.

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 1 points 47 minutes ago

This has simply been my experience. It doesn't sit quite right with me. I want there to be a fix. I've just never seen it work.

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 4 points 13 hours ago

Have you applied for unemployment yet? They'll usually back pay to when you were laid off too if you get through all the red tape... Might be a state by state thing idk

Have you ever thought about talking to a therapist about the magic aura thing? There might be something you don't realize that they could help you figure out.

Could you get a job of any kind and reduce your living standard for a little while to match what you make? This is a shitty answer, and really should only ever apply to the 1%... But sadly we do live in a capitalist hellscape... Good luck

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 32 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Oof... This is a tough one. First, I'll point out that this post is EXACTLY what I'd expect from a narcissist. Woe is me, zero accountability. Assuming you've actually been diagnosed by a psychiatric Dr, they didn't diagnosed you with NPD on a whim. You were diagnosed with NPD after you did something, or more likely after a lot of times doing harmful things, and finally taking some initiative to figure out what's wrong with you. Maybe friends or family had to really push you towards getting help. Maybe your just young enough that seeking mental health help is normalized, so you were able to go for it.

"As someone who has NPD I haven't abused or manipulated anyone ever." -As someone with NPD you wouldn't be able to recognize if you had ever done these things. This entire post is pretty manipulative actually.

NPD is a very tragic illness. One of the worst parts imo is that, almost always, one of the symptoms is the person not being able to truly recognize their own disorder. This can be dangerous, and also infuriating. A person's entire life can fall apart around them, and they are incapable of doing the self reflection necessary to understand why, let alone do the work to fix the problem. People will spend years trying to "save" a loved one, to get that person to recognize that it's THEM who is the problem and needs to do the work, just to get to the exact same spot a decade later because that person CAN NOT recognize it. Recognizing there is a problem is the first step towards fixing yourself. Since NPD usually precludes the person from being able to recognize the problem in themselves, it becomes impossible for them to save/fix themselves. It's truly insidious.

All those things you listed would make you a bad person if you didn't try to correct them. And maybe you actually are. I certainly hope so.

Edit to add: asking someone with NPD to be able to self reflect and do the work to change, is like asking a paraplegic to run a marathon. It might seem to others that the person is REFUSING, when in reality they literally cannot physically do so. However, unlike the paraplegic person, a person with NPD causes harm to everyone around them, and the only thing a healthy person can do is cut toxic people from their lives. It's not the person with NPDs fault (one of the other great tragedies is that it is almost always a result of shit parents) that they are toxic, but they are toxic none the less, and unable to stop it. I'm sorry you ended up this way, I truly hope you can let yourself be treated.

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 3 points 20 hours ago

Oh to be young and feel every new personal discovery so viscerally!

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 12 points 20 hours ago

Ah yes... The 9/11 approach to "investigating"

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 9 points 1 day ago

"The war is not meant to be won, it is meant to be continuous."

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 35 points 1 day ago

I think we're probably playing it a little fast and loose with the word "rich" here. Boomers were raised by people who steadfastly believed in the system, in a time after the new deal when the system was still actually helping people. (Broad straight white strokes, I know.) They are also pig headed as a generation, and changing their beliefs (like from, the system is working, to, the system is not working) is hard for them. So they were easily tricked into selling out the future for their own meager gain. They were still victims though, and I don't think anyone would say the majority of them got rich from the housing stuff. Just comparatively to how shitty their kids are doing. At least the article is pointing towards "the rich," just not the real ones. It's about dividing the peasants as usual.

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 7 points 2 days ago

Thanks... What did this guy do? Did he get to unilaterally make this call? (Serious, I have no idea how France works).

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 33 points 2 days ago

"Democratic collapse nowadays isn’t a matter of abolishing elections and declaring oneself dictator, but rather stealthily hollowing out a democratic system so it’s harder and harder for the opposition to win. This strategy requires full control over the state and the bureaucracy: That means having the right staff in the right places who can use their power to erode democracy’s core functions."

The establishment Dems and Reps have been doing this for decades. Trump is just the last straw. He's walking away with the monster they created and he's probably going to let it off the leash.

The only question I have is whether the oligarchy wants him to do that. Imo they weren't ready for it last time. They built the monster for someone controllable like Clinton or Jeb!, and I think they were actually surprised when Trump won the first time. This time they made him a nice little play book, and they've had some time to learn how to at least keep him pointed in the right direction, if not controlled. They might be ready to release the monster they created. Everyone will blame Trump too, instead of the oligarchy... Bonus.

[-] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 27 points 3 days ago

1/3 of voting age Americans voted for Trump (that 3rd wants fascism)... 1/3 for Kamala, and 1/3 stayed home... A lot of the 1/3 that stayed home did so because they don't want neolib policy, and probably a lot of the 1/3 that voted for her also don't want neolib policy. There's very little to support the idea that anyone "shifted right"... They shifted home when they weren't given an option to vote against genocide and other neolib bullshit

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Thought, maybe we could all use a little inspiration from back in the day.

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Do you think it would be possible (and how could we get it done?) to unite millions of people who collectively agree to target an individual company for a short time unless the company meets our demands? For example, for the month of March we all pledge to not purchase anything from Apple unless Apple does XYZ... Either they do it, or we tank their stock... Move on to the next company target

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submitted 7 months ago by Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee to c/economics@lemmy.world

This idea has been kicking around in my head for a while, and I'm hoping some Lemmy geniuses can poke holes/ flesh it out with me.

Every person I've ever heard of works for and gets paid by some form of company. So instead of the company paying the workers and then those workers getting taxed, why not just tax it all to the corporations to begin with? Instead of hundreds of millions of individuals to think about, the IRS (in US) could just focus on a few million companies.

We the people democratically decide what we think is needed for a functioning society, and charge it to the corporations.

I'd say each company should be responsible for paying the same percentage of the bill as percentage of total "profits" they made. Like, if Apple makes 10% of all the combined profits of all the companies this quarter, they are responsible for paying 10% of the bill. Highest paid employee can make 10x what the lowest paid employee (including contracted and foreign workers) makes; more than that gets included in the calculation as part of the company's "profits". (So that CEO can still get paid absurd amounts of money, but the company will still pay taxes on most of it)

What if we created some sort of secure opinion/voting app where people go to cast their vote on whatever people think needs to be voted on. Should there be UBI? Should it be a token, living, or thriving wage? (Personally, I'd go with thriving and tie it to inflation) Single payer healthcare? All education paid for? Stop funding genocide? No more polluting the planet, or at least force companies to pay to clean up their own messes? When and where are companies allowed to market to us? Where should the threshold of agreement be to enact changes, 40% 50%+1 60%? Etc etc

Then we elect people who agree to simply enact what the people democratically agree on... And if the people don't agree, they'll stay away from it or leave it to the states. And hopefully someday we could build it out so that state and local governments work this way too.

I think we get bogged down on the 2 or 3 things we disagree on and allow that to mean we never get the things we DO agree on. Let's get the things we agree on first, and then continue debating the things we disagree on.

Also I think this would be a long term plan. 12 years would give us 2 full election cycles here in the US and would give zoomers time to grow up, settle, and start to really vote (hopefully with this new system).

Anyway, like I said, let's poke holes and figure out solutions. Thanks

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